Sternberg Triangular Love Test

Psychologist Robert Sternberg sees love as being composed of three components: intimacy, passion, and commitment. Use this quiz to determine your ranking in each of these three areas for someone you love.

Instructions: Read each of the following statements, thinking of the person you love or care for deeply, and rate your agreement with each statement. Please take the time to fill out the below form as accurately, honestly, and completely as possible. All of your responses are confidential and you will be provided with instant results.


I am a year old / /

Thinking of the person you love…

1. I am actively supportive of their well-being.

2. I have a warm relationship with them.

3. I’m able to count on them in times of need.

4. They are able to count on me in times of need.

5. I am willing to share myself and my possessions with them.

6. I receive considerable emotional support from them.

7. I give considerable emotional support to them.

8. I communicate well with them.

9. I value them greatly in my life.

10. I feel close to them.

11. I have a comfortable relationship with them

12. I feel that I really understand them.

13. I feel that they really understand me.

14. I feel that I can really trust them.

15. I share deeply personal information about myself with them.


Thinking of the person you love…

16. Just seeing them excites me.

17. I find myself thinking about them frequently during the day.

18. My relationship with them is very romantic.

19. I find them to be very personally attractive.

20. I idealize them.

21. I cannot imagine another person making me as happy as they do.

22. I would rather be with them than anyone else.

23. There is nothing more important to me than my relationship with them.

24. I especially like physical contact with them.

25. There is something almost “magical” about my relationship with them.

26. I adore them.

27. I cannot imagine life without them.

28. My relationship with them is passionate.

29. When I see romantic movies or read romantic books, I think of them.

30. I fantasize about them.


Thinking of the person you love…

31. I know that care about them.

32. I am committed to maintaining my relationship with them.

33. Because of my commitment, I would not let other people between us.

34. I have confidence in the stability of my relationship with them.

35. I could not let anything get in the way of my commitment to them.

36. I expect my love for them to last for the rest of my life.

37. I will always have a strong responsibility for them.

38. I view my commitment to them as a solid one.

39. I cannot imagine ending my relationship with them.

40. I am certain of my love for them.

41. I view my relationship with them as permanent.

42. I view my relationship with them as a good decision.

43. I feel a sense of responsibility toward them.

44. I plan to continue my relationship with them.

45. Even when they are hard to deal with, I remain committed to our relationship.




Reference: “The Triangular Love Scale” from The Triangle of Love: Intimacy, Passion, Commitment by Robert Sternberg. Copyright © 1988 by Robert Sternberg. Reprinted by permission of the author. All rights reserved.


Psych Central Research Team

Psych Central quizzes are developed by Dr. John M. Grohol, Psy.D. in conjunction with other psychological researchers, based upon scientific studies and/or the official diagnostic criteria for a disorder. Dr. Grohol is a published researcher, author, and mental health expert, and he currently sits on the scientific board of Computers in Human Behavior. Learn more about how we develop our psychological tests.

APA Reference
Research Team, P. (2020). Sternberg Triangular Love Test. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 28, 2020, from


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Last updated: 29 Jul 2020
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 29 Jul 2020
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