Dreaming of Sex with My Boss
My dream concerns my boss at work. I have been with the company for over 3 years and just started reporting to him about 9 months ago. He is a great boss, but I don’t have any romantic feelings for him. He and I work very well together and he is probably the best manager that I have had thus far in my career. He thinks highly of me and expects a lot from me. There has never been any reference or exchange of anything remotely close to attraction or flirting between us.
I recently became engaged and was really taken back by this dream! My only explanation is that my fiance is totally different than my boss, yet there are qualities and things about my boss that I wish my fiance shared also. Could this dream indicate some hidden attraction for my boss? Should I be concerned?
In my dream I was in a room with my boss that had a couch and TV. He is married, and his wife was in the next room (not sure how I know that, I just remember it being known to us during the dream). He was on the couch with me and lay back to get comfortable, laying his head on my leg. At some point during the movie, he looked up at me and began to kiss me. When he pulled back, he said, “Welcome to the company. I welcome all my direct reports this way.”
When I woke up, it was like it had really happened. I found myself lying in bed, wondering how in the world I was going to face him the next day at work. Finally, it came to me that I had only dreamt it and it was not real.
–ann, age 33, single, female, GA
It’s always a little strange when we dream about sex with a co-worker. Will we ever look at them in the same way? Does it mean we really are attracted to them, or they to us? And if we do admit to an attraction, isn’t this a dangerous blurring of boundaries in our professional workplace?
Sex in dreams rarely is a disguised symbol. Accordingly, if we dream of sex with a friend or acquaintance, we generally should remain open to the possibility that we find this person attractive, even if the dream, at first, takes us by surprise. Judging by your report, there are several reasons why you may currently find your boss attractive. You have recently developed a close working relationship, and enjoy the day-to-day interaction. Is it strange that your mind occasionally wonders “what if?”