What’s your style of romantic attachment? Find out now!


Instructions: This quiz is designed to help give you some insight into your style of romantic attachment. It consists of three parts: two sets of 20 statements describing feelings in a romantic relationship, and then a single choice about your attitude toward romantic relationships. For each item, indicate how much you agree or disagree with the statement. This takes most people about 5-10 minutes to complete. Take your time and answer truthfully for the most accurate results.


I am a year old / /

1. I can be devastated if a romantic partner disapproves of me.
2. I get more anxious and concerned when I am not in a relationship.
3. I have a hard time when my partner wants to spend time alone.
4. I often need to be reassured by my romantic partner that I am truly loved.
5. If my partner is not around as much as I would like, I tend to get anxious and irritable.
6. If my romantic partner is not available when I need her/him, I can easily get very frustrated.
7. My partners often don’t want to get as close as I would like.
8. I worry about abandonment by my partner.
9. I get concerned a lot about losing romantic partners.
10. I get very concerned that my romantic partner doesn’t love me enough.
11. I worry a lot about romantic relationships.
12. I often worry that my romantic partner’s feelings aren’t as deep for me and mine are for her/him.
13. I don’t often worry about being abandoned by romantic partners.
14. I am usually secure in feeling that a romantic partner cares for me.
15. I get very angry and distressed when I am unsuccessful in getting my partner to show interest in me.
16. I fear that romantic partners won’t love me as much as I love them.
17. I find that I want to merge deeply with romantic partners, but this can scare them.
18. I get anxious when I think about being without a partner.
19. I have sometimes felt that I was pushing a partner to show more feeling and closeness than she or he wanted.
20. Sometimes in the past, I think my desire to be very close has frightened off romantic partners.



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