Quick Compassionate Love Test

This fun love test is used to help determine what kind of compassionate, loving relationship you are in. It provides a free, anonymous, instant score.

Instructions: Please answer the questions below, rating yourself on each of the criteria shown using the scale below each question. As you answer each question, choose the answer that best describes how you have felt and conducted yourself over the past 6 months.


I am a year old / /

1. I try to understand rather than judge my partner.

2. I often have tender feelings toward my partner when they seem to be in need.

3. I would rather suffer myself than see my partner suffer.

4. If my partner needs help, I would do almost anything I could to help him or her.

5. When I see my partner feeling sad, I feel a need to reach out to them.

6. I feel happy when I see that my partner is happy.




Adapted from Sprecher, S. & Fehr, B. from their article, Compassionate love for close others and humanity. For personal use only; other use may be prohibited by law.



Psych Central Research Team

Psych Central quizzes are developed by Dr. John M. Grohol, Psy.D. in conjunction with other psychological researchers, based upon scientific studies and/or the official diagnostic criteria for a disorder. Dr. Grohol is a published researcher, author, and mental health expert, and he currently sits on the scientific board of Computers in Human Behavior. Learn more about how we develop our psychological tests.

APA Reference
Research Team, P. (2020). Quick Compassionate Love Test. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 30, 2020, from


Scientifically Reviewed
Last updated: 17 Jan 2020
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 17 Jan 2020
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