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Women Enjoy Casual Sex Better When They Take the Initiative

Women Enjoy Casual Sex Better When They Take the Initiative

Research has shown women generally regret short-term sexual encounters like one-night stands more than men do. A new study examines hook-ups and finds that a variety of factors determine the extent of a woman’s regret.

Norwegian investigators discovered initiative is the clearest gender-differentiating factor for regret after casual sex. However, other conditions also affect how much an individual regrets the encounter.

In contrast to women, sexual regret for men is not affected by whether they take the initiative.

“The factor that clearly distinguishes women from men is the extent to which they themselves take the initiative,” says Mons Bendixen, an associate professor in the Department of Psychology at the Norwegian University of Science and Technology (NTNU).

“Women who take the initiative see the man as an attractive sexual partner,” says Professor Leif Edvard Ottesen Kennair, also at NTNU’s Department of Psychology.

Bendixen and Kennair collaborated with Ph.D. candidate Joy P. Wyckoff and Professor David M. Buss at the University of Texas at Austin, and with Kelly Asao, a lecturer at the Institute of Social Neuroscience in Melbourne.

“Women who initiate sex are likely to have at least two distinguishing qualities,” says Professor David Buss.

“First, they are likely to have a healthy sexual psychology, being maximally comfortable with their own sexuality. Second, women who initiate have maximum choice of precisely who they want to have sex with. Consequently, they have less reason to feel regret, since they’ve made their own choice.”

“Regret is a highly unpleasant emotion and our findings suggest that having control over their decision to engage in sex buffered women from experiencing regret.

These results are another reminder of the importance of women’s ability to make autonomous decisions regarding their sexual behaviors,” says Wyckoff.

Men regret casual sex much less overall than women do, although it does happen. For women, several individual factors play an important role in their perception of regret.

“Women feel less regret if the partner was skilled and they felt sexually satisfied,” says Kennair.

However, these effects are not as strong in men. “Women have less regret if the sex was good. For men, this plays a less important role. The underlying causes are biological,” Bendixen said.

He explains that the higher-investing sex faces larger repercussions of mating decisions than the lower investing sex. Women have a higher minimum obligatory parental investment (e.g., nine months internal gestation) than men. So, women’s regret should be more closely tied to the quality of their sex partner than men’s.

“For women, sexual skill might be a cue to high male quality,” says Kelly Asao. In short, women may profit more from high quality in their sexual partners than men do.

Bendixen and Kennair, in collaboration with David Buss and his research team in Texas, have been looking at what people think of their own and others’ sexuality for the last several years, and whether they regret having had casual sex and why.

This study adds several factors that can explain responses to casual sex.

In the new research, study participants were asked: if they took the initiative for the sex act, if they felt pressured to have sex and whether the partner was skilled or sexually competent.

Participants were also asked if they experienced disgust.

Women admitted disgust more often than men after a short-term sexual encounter with the investigators believing this is a key factor in whether or not they feel regret.

“The feeling of disgust or revulsion is the single factor that best explained why women and men regretted the last time they had casual sex when we controlled for all other factors,” says Bendixen.

People may feel disgust because they feel moral regret, but also if the act is unhygienic or if the sex itself was perceived as gross. The impact of disgust was strong for both sexes and among both the Norwegian and the American student participants.

“Sexual disgust is an important adaptive emotion,” says Buss. “It functions to help people avoid, now or in the future, potential sex partners who are either low in mate value or who carry some risk of sexually transmitted infections.”

Researchers obtained data from 547 Norwegian and 216 American students. Interestingly, the nationality and possible cultural aspects of the responses seem to play a minor role, if any.

A larger proportion of Norwegian participants had casual sex than the Americans, but the patterns are the same, and the responses differed little in their reasons for regret and to what degree women and men feel any regret at all.

“It’s interesting that — despite clear gender and cultural differences in the levels of concern, pressure, disgust, how good the sex was, the partner’s sexual competence and initiative — clear similarities existed between the groups in how these factors affected the degree of sexual regret,” says Bendixen.

“With the exception of initiative-taking, it seems that the mechanisms for sexual regret are only minimally affected by whether you’re a woman or a man, or whether you’re a Norwegian or an American student,” says Kenner.

A significant aspect of the latest findings is that the researchers obtained the same results as they had done in previous studies.

Psychology is among the fields of study that have been criticized for not obtaining results that can be repeated in later studies. But Kennair and Bendixen have now done this.

“By studying the same phenomenon that’s based on clear theory, in several rounds, from different angles, and especially in different cultures, we can develop a theory-based cumulative science. The findings are simply more credible when we find out the same thing over several rounds,” Kennair says.

Source: Norwegian University of Science and Technology

Women Enjoy Casual Sex Better When They Take the Initiative

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

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Nauert PhD, R. (2018). Women Enjoy Casual Sex Better When They Take the Initiative. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 17, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/news/2018/03/09/women-enjoy-casual-sex-better-when-they-take-the-initiative/133531.html

 

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