Note: This is not a discussion of the pros and cons of abortion. Both sides of the argument agree that grief after abortion is real and women must be given their voices back to process the grief.
Pro-choice woman: “Once a woman decides to have an abortion she has to try to cope with her experiences and her emotions on her own. I wish that women could share their stories openly without fear of being judged by society. Abortion is such a hot topic and there are many people shouting loudly on both sides of the argument. Sadly, the one voice you never hear, and perhaps the voice that is most important, is the woman who has had an abortion.”
Pro-life woman: “I might have found healing years earlier had I not been so terrified of the Church. Had I been able to address the pain emotionally, maybe then I would have been able to face the spiritual side of this.”
Have you had an abortion and feel like you have never emotionally recovered from it? Are you unsure about how to go about recovering from the abortion? If you answered “yes,” you are not alone. Many women have the same experience and have never worked through the recovery process. Here’s some input to help you understand common thoughts and feelings a woman experiences after an abortion and the kind of impact an abortion may have. I’ll also share some tips for recovering from an abortion.
Common feelings a woman experiences after abortion
I believe the most common thought and feeling immediately following an abortion is relief.
Unfortunately, this sense of relief is not always permanent. Every circumstance surrounding an abortion experience is as unique as the woman who chooses the procedure.
Sometimes a deep feeling of sadness will set in immediately. Because abortion is a final decision that can’t be taken back, I believe most women, myself included, are forced to go into a period of stuffing down the sadness and getting on with life.
Herein is “the rub.” Combine the emotions of relief and deep sadness and what sort of emotional cocktail do you get? Confusion! The days, weeks, months and years following the decision can result in a lot of confusing emotional distresses. On one end of the spectrum is an overwhelming relief to be out of the crisis, and on the other end there is an amazing depth of sadness that resonates to the core of one’s being.