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Anorexia

The Eating Disorder Is Voldemort: On Using Metaphors in Treatment

When some patients start treatment for an eating disorder it can be emotionally and physically uncomfortable. In my work as a therapist I try to educate my patients as to why this feeling is normal. On top of the patient’s discomfort, sometimes it can be hard for loved ones to understand what someone with an eating disorder is going through while in treatment. Therapists routinely use metaphors for both of these reasons, in my opinion. The use of metaphors makes something that was previously unknown, relatable. I think it can be helpful to relate new concepts and hard topics to something familiar in order to make it easier to comprehend.
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Children and Teens

How to Cope When the Anxious Child Has a Meltdown

When our children exhibit disruptive behavior and appear to be out of control, we can feel helpless and sometimes hopeless. When we realize that their actions are no longer isolated events but have become part of a distressing routine, our mind may come up with myriad of solutions. When our children have anxiety and we know that this a contributing factor, our amazing problem-solving machine -- the mind, might also say to us, “You are a terrible parent. It’s your fault.”

This is a thought that our mind is providing to help us make sense of the situation. It is only trying to find a solution to match our distress and our child’s behavior. Those thoughts may match the situation, but it is not helpful and is simply not the case!
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Borderline Personality

Free Live Webinar: The Gifting of Borderline Personality Disorder

Do you know someone who has an intense fear of abandonment, does dangerous and impulsive acts, is unstable in relationships, and expresses extreme emotions? They might have severe depression, anger, anxiety, rage, substance abuse and even self-harming behaviors. Yet, they can be the most passionate loving people who are highly sensitive to their moods and the moods of others. If so, you might ht be dealing with a person who has borderline personality disorder. Their hot and cold interaction can be frustrating and confusing. But it doesn’t have to be. Join us for this webinar and discover the gifting of this disorder.

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General

What It Means to Not Take Things Personally

We often hear that we shouldn’t take things so personally. But what does this actually mean?

If someone we’ve allowed into our heart says something shaming or hurtful, such as “You only think about yourself” or “How can you be so stupid?” we’re likely to feel the pain of being judged and criticized. It hurts to be viewed as an object with horrible traits rather than be seen in our wholeness.

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Happiness

Invest in Yourself: 5 Self-Care Tips for Bringing Out Your Best Self

In a busy life, self-care is often pushed aside or given low priority. Perhaps a weekly yoga class or run around the block on weekends are all you can fit in. But for optimal functioning you need to invest in your mind and emotions as well as your physical health.

The basis of looking after yourself is self-love. Not the narcissistic kind with false self-admiration but the love you have for yourself as a precious human being who deserves to be treated with respect and care and who has the right to be who they really are. With such spiritually-based kind and generous attitude towards yourself you know that looking after yourself on every level of your being is essential for living the best life you can.
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General

Podcast: How Can Romantic Relationships Work With a Mentally Ill Person?


In this episode of the Psych Central Show, hosts Gabe Howard and Vincent M. Wales discuss the potentially disastrous effects of mental illness on romantic relationships, especially those in which one individual has a mental illness and the other does not. Drawing from their own failed marriages (two each), Gabe and Vincent talk about the role mental illness played in the ending of the relationships, including when they were undiagnosed or diagnosed but with little or no treatment. Gabe also shares advice for those in such relationships on how to minimize the impact of mental illness on the relationships themselves, based on his successful third marriage.
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