Borderline personality disorder (BPD) can have a big impact on your mood, relationships, and daily life. The good news is that therapy and a good self-care routine can greatly reduce your symptoms and improve your quality of life.
BPD means something different for everyone. For years, many people believed that the condition was untreatable. However, with recent advances in therapeutic methods, we now know that effective treatments are, in fact, available.
BPD is a mental health condition that affects approximately
One older research study found that after 2 years of therapy,
While BPD causes a lot of emotional pain for many people, know that help is available — and you’re not alone. With psychotherapy, medication (if indicated), and self-care strategies, you can manage your symptoms and lead a fulfilling, meaningful life.
For many people, treatment for BPD includes psychotherapy and medication. Treatments aim to address all symptoms associated with BPD. The goal is to reduce distress, improve your relationships, and boost your quality of life.
Research shows that over
BPD can also cause you to see others as entirely good or bad, which is a defense mechanism called “
If you’ve been diagnosed with BPD, you may also experience other mental health concerns, such as depression, anxiety, eating disorders, or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). An effective treatment plan should consider all co-occurring issues, too.
The most effective treatment for BPD is individual psychotherapy and, sometimes, group therapy. Right now, there aren’t any
Dialectical behavior therapy
Developed by psychologist Marcia Linehan, PhD, dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) is one of the most researched treatments for BPD. DBT teaches you four skills:
- Mindfulness helps you focus on the present moment and accept yourself and your life circumstances with compassion.
- Distress tolerance helps you get through challenging situations. These skills can include distraction techniques like playing a game on your phone, pleasurable activities like taking a bubble bath, and cognitive exercises like accepting a difficult situation.
- Emotion regulation are tools to help you better handle upsetting emotions like anger, sadness, and feelings of abandonment. For instance, if you’re isolating, your DBT therapist may have you reach out to a friend.
- Relationship skills help you set boundaries, communicate your needs, and build more supportive connections with others.
DBT includes many types of support, including weekly therapy, group therapy, and phone support, and coaching with your therapist.
TFP therapists believe that the same thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that are present in your personal relationships will also emerge with your therapist. TFP therapists also help you see yourself and others with greater self-compassion.
- detached protector
- punitive parent
- abandoned/abused child
- angry/impulsive child
SFT therapists help you alter your “schemas,” which are your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors about the stressful situation. They also focus on “re-parenting,” which means learning to treat yourself with love and compassion as a way of healing childhood trauma.
There isn’t one medication that can treat BPD symptoms, and researchers are still looking at which medications might be most helpful.
So far, mental health professionals have found that certain medications may help treat symptoms such as mood changes, emotional dysregulation, and impulsive behaviors. In addition, medication can often treat mental health conditions like ADHD, depression, and anxiety, which often co-occur with BPD symptoms.
Here are some commonly prescribed meditations:
Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs)
Self-care is an essential part of treatment. Finding self-care tools and support systems that work for you can help you feel understood and less alone. Here are some self-help strategies that you can try, if they seem helpful.
If you enjoy writing, journaling is a way to express your thoughts, feelings, and fears. Naming your emotions can make them feel less scary and overwhelming.
Identify joyful activities
When emotions are intense, turning to joyful or pleasurable activities can help. Identify three activities that bring you joy. You might consider taking a walk, baking, taking a bubble bath, or listening to relaxing music.
Learning about other peoples’ experiences with BPD
It can feel lonely or isolating to live with BPD, especially if you don’t know anyone else living with the condition. Connecting with other peoples’ experiences with BPD might help you feel less alone.
Amanda Webster, for example, was diagnosed with BPD many years ago. With therapy, Amanda has learned to manage her symptoms and hopes to help others. Her YouTube channel is a place where people living with BPD can find peer support and understanding.
MedCircle has a great YouTube interview with a woman named Sammy Grimm on how she manages her BPD. Her boyfriend, Bryan, also makes a cameo appearance to talk about their relationship.
Here’s a blog aimed to reduce the stigma surrounding BPD and provide resources and tools for people living with this mental health concern. This is a great blog post written by someone living with BPD as well.
Shamala Del Rosario is a wife, mother, and grandmother living with BPD. On her podcast, Shamala talks about her recovery, her childhood trauma, and tools for coping with symptoms of this mental health concern.
With many therapies and resources available to treat BPD, living with this mental health condition is more manageable than ever. Taking the first step to talk with a therapist or join a support group may seem scary at first, but treatment and self-care can pay off in the long run.
If you’re living with BPD, finding the right types of resources and support is an important part of your treatment.
Perhaps begin with Psych Central’s myth-busting article to help separate facts from fiction about BPD.
Resources like the
If you’re looking for a therapist, the American Psychological Association has a searchable database of licensed psychologists throughout the United States. Meetup has a list of DBT groups around the world.
The Mental Illness Happy Hour is a weekly podcast hosted by Paul Gilmartin that explores mental health concerns, trauma, substance use, and negative thinking. And on Instagram, Elyse Fox heads up the Sad Girls Club, an inclusive, online group for BIPOC women living with mental health concerns.