Teenagers have a tendency to be dramatic. Many of us dont like to admit it, but we were dramatic at that age, too, at least to some extent. Now that were parents (or other relatives, mentors, caregivers, or friends) to a teenager, the universe is giving us a taste of it from the other side. Most teenage angst is typical. I remember the first time my mom insulted my favorite band. What she said was, I dont like this band.

What I heard was, Youre stupid for listening to them and you have awful taste in music.

When teenagers get angry, watch out. Weve all said things we regret when angry and the minds of teenagers arent fully formed. Many life lessons that we adults take for granted have not yet been experienced by the average teen. When angry, they lash out and will say whatever it is they feel will hurt you.

Threatening to commit suicide is a fairly typical escalation point for an upset teenager looking to lash out.

Dont Ignore Any Suicide Threat, Even If Youre Sure Theyre Lying

Our society is deficient in mental health education and suicide prevention.The fact is that many adults dont know what to do when anyone threatens to commit suicide, let alone a kid. Our natural tendency is to ignore things that make us feel uncomfortable or that we dont understand. However, ignoring teenagers when they threaten suicide is a bad idea even if you are sure they are just being dramatic. There are only two reasons for individuals to say they are contemplating suicide:

  1. They are considering ending their life and in need of medical care.
  2. They are trying to manipulate you and, in doing so, (unintentionally) making it harder for people who arent lying to be taken seriously.

Either reason needs to be taken seriously. Addressing the first reason is obvious; addressing the second ensures that your teen doesnt minimize the experiences of people who truly need help. Crying wolf doesnt just hurt them; it causes a ripple effect that prevents people who need care from getting it.

Thats not okay.

What Do You Do When Someone Says He or She Is Considering Suicide?

If someone says that he or she is considering suicide, you immediately get the person medical help. Call 9-1-1, take them to the emergency room, take them to the doctors office or local health department. Do not ignore the comment and do not try to handle it on your own. Mental illness, mental health crises, and thoughts of suicide are medical issues that need medical intervention.

Even if you are sure the teen is just being dramatic, seek medical help anyway. Suicidal threats are not something to take lightly. Many people dont want to waste their time or waste a doctors time with something that they believe is just a adolescent being manipulative.

And they would be wrong to think that. Suicide is permanent. Would you want to take that risk if there is even a 1% chance that youre wrong? Also, a teen learning the lesson that threatening suicide isnt a weapon to be wielded in a disagreement or a tool for manipulation is a very valuable lesson.

So, your teen gets life-saving medical care or a life-changing experience that will make him or her a better person. There is no downside.

For all the manipulation, teenage angst, and dramatic rantings out there, I still take all threats seriously. Im 99% positive my six-year-old nephew cant get, and doesnt have, a gun. But, if he walked up to me and said he had a loaded gun under his bed, Id still go look.

Wouldnt you?

Gabe Howard is a professional speaker, writer, and advocate who lives with bipolar and anxiety disorders. He has made it his mission to change the way society reacts to mental illness. He is an award-winning blogger and the creator of theofficial bipolar shirt. (Get yours now!) Interested in working with Gabe or learning more? Hecan be reached onFacebook, viaemail,or on his website,www.GabeHoward.com. Dont be shy hes not.

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