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Is That Me Yelling? A Parent’s Guide

July 25th, 2014
"I never imagined that I would have a child who talks back to me and thinks she’s the boss of everyone. How did that happen, and what am I supposed to do now?" So asks Brice, a psychologist and parent of a 7-year-old child, in Rona Renner’s Is That Me Yelling? A Parent’s Guide to Getting Your ...

8 Keys to End Bullying: Strategies for Parents & Schools

BOOK REVIEW.
A school playground aide sees third-grader Riley grab hold of classmate Liza’s scarf and choke her with it. Riley is subsequently viewed as the bully. But is there more to the story? What the aide hasn’t witnessed is the endless ridicule Riley has experienced from Liza and Liza’s best friend, Jada. Liza and Jada have learned ...

Don’t Ask Your Partner to Erase the Past

marriage_communication5I’ve received dozens of letters to the Psych Central advice column with the same problem: The writer has married a man or woman who is divorced and is upset because the new spouse wants to keep old pictures or items from their former marriage. For the spouse, ...

OCD and Trauma

OCD and TraumaWhen discussing the causes of obsessive-compulsive disorder, the general consensus is that a combination of genetic and environmental factors likely leads to its development. There’s talk of genetic predisposition, triggering events and childhood trauma. Oh, how that last one makes me cringe, and regardless of ...

Stages of Marriage

Relationship Tips for Those Rocky First Few Years of MarriageSummertime is wedding time for thousands of couples. For months, perhaps even a year, you’ve been focused on making your wedding day perfect. Thoughts and conversations have gone into deciding everything from colors for the flowers to ...

Yoga Therapy For Children with Autism & Special Needs

BOOK REVIEW.
As a former yoga teacher, I used to consider Anatomy of Hatha Yoga my bedside manual. Years later, after my life priorities changed and the focus on physical stamina became less important than attaining a peaceful mind, I revisited the practice. It was a different yoga in my forties than in my twenties and thirties, despite that ...

What Can Parents Do When OCD Sneaks In?

What Can Parents Do When OCD Sneaks In?Megan felt miserable. She and her family had relocated in the middle of the school year to another city. She was missing her friends and changes were difficult for her. It seemed the problems began one morning when she ...

Are You a People-Pleaser?

Are You a People-Pleaser?Everyone starts out in life wanting to be safe, loved, and accepted. It’s in our DNA. Some of us figure out that the best way to do this is to put aside what we want or feel and allow someone else’s needs and ...

Get the Kids Off Those Screens

Get the Kids off Those ScreensIt’s probably not new information for you. American children are now spending more time on the “screens” in their lives than on any other single activity. According to a 2010 study by the Kaiser Family Foundation, children and teens were spending 50 ...

Teaching Children to Do Hard Things

Teaching Children to Do Hard ThingsA child and his grandfather are at the playground. There is a high teepee set up with ropes and it looks challenging for the 3-year-old boy. His grandfather invites him to climb it. As he takes the first step toward the top, ...

It’s Father’s Day: What Are You Giving Your Kids?

It's Father's Day: What Are You Giving Your Kids?American culture is becoming increasingly dad-less. Forty percent of American children are being born to single moms, and 24 percent of kids under the age of 18 live in single-mother families with no spouse present. The divorce rate, ...

Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect

BOOK REVIEW.
Sometimes one has the pleasure of reading a book that provides genuine insight and discusses a concept previously unnamed. Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect, by clinical psychologist Jonice Webb and contributor Christine Musello, was one such book for me.  It is no secret that I consider many self-help books questionable, or, at best, critically lacking ...

The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment & the Developing Social Brain

BOOK REVIEW.
I had barely started this book and was already recommending it to friends and colleagues. Early in the second edition of The Neuroscience of Human Relationships, psychology professor and private practitioner Louis Cozolino challenges traditional Western philosophy of the lone and separate individual. As Cozolino writes, “Individual neurons or single human brains do not exist in ...

Safe with Me

BOOK REVIEW.
Amy Hatvany’s latest ‘can’t put down’ read and thought-provoking novel, Safe With Me, explores various themes - the role of technology in adolescents’ lives, grief management and dishonesty - but one that she truly delves into is the complexity surrounding domestic abuse. When Hannah, a single mother and successful salon stylist, tragically loses her 12-year-old daughter, ...

How to Get More of the Behavior You Want in Kids (Without Really Trying)

How to Get More of the Behavior You Want in Kids (Without Really Trying)When kids independently do what we would have wanted, either their natural inclinations sync with our values -- or our values have been successfully transmitted. At these happy moments, an ill-timed temptation to ...

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and the Teen Brain

OCD and Teens' BrainsWhen my son Dan was at a residential treatment program to battle his severe obsessive-compulsive disorder, my husband and I were encouraged by the staff there to let him make his own major life decisions, without any input from us. This didn’t make sense ...

Frustration with Video Games Leads to Aggressive Behavior

Frustration with Video Games Leads to Aggressive Behavior The debate about whether the violence in video games perpetrates violence in real life is an ongoing one. Many parents, wanting to ensure the best for their children, remain uncertain about whether to allow their children to play ...

Mother’s Day is Family Day

Mother's Day is Family DayIt’s May and Mother’s Day is around the corner. However we may feel about the holiday, the greeting card and floral industries make it impossible to ignore. Mothers are supposed to be treated with breakfast in bed, a bouquet of roses, time ...

OCD and Atypical Antipsychotics

OCD and Atypical AntipsychoticsWhile the frontline treatment for obsessive-compulsive disorder continues to be Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) therapy, many who suffer from obsessive-compulsive disorder also appear to be helped by medication. Often the combination of ERP therapy and medication, typically high doses of selective serotonin ...

The Do’s & Don’ts of Teaching Your Child to Cope

The Do's & Don'ts of Teaching Your Child to CopeOne of the most important things we parents can do for our kids is to help them learn to cope. Stress, setbacks, disappointments and defeats are a natural and even at times a frequent part of people’s ...

Book Review: Outside the Lines: A Novel

BOOK REVIEW.
Outside the Lines powerfully encourages readers to reexamine their perspective regarding mental illness. Amy Hatvany intricately explores the world of someone who’s mentally ill, detailing painful repercussions, stigma and societal perceptions. And alongside this narrative, we witness a beautiful, deep-seated love between a father and daughter. As a young girl, Eden observed her artistic ...

April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month

April is National Child Abuse Prevention MonthI’d like to think that some April I won’t have to write about Child Abuse Prevention Month. But here we are again. Kids are still being abused in America. The statistics are shocking: In the United States, over five children are ...

Parenting the Whole Child

BOOK REVIEW.
The brain is a fascinating organ. It weighs about three pounds when fully grown and entails a plethora of complicated electrical and chemical processes that can stump the savviest of scientists. Encased in a jelly-like substance in the skull, it is thought to separate human beings from other animals, and allows for the sophisticated thought ...