Practical Tools for Developing Your Self-Worth

By Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. • 3 min read

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So many of us think we’re unworthy or worthless or not good enough. We might feel this way because of our past or mistakes we’ve made. We might feel this way because some people repeatedly told us we’re unworthy. Or because we haven’t accomplished what we wanted to accomplish. Or because we haven’t fulfilled a number of expectations we had for our lives.

If you feel this way, take heart: Whatever the reason, you can learn to accept, appreciate and even love yourself. You can build a strong self-worth.


Look to the Future to Ease Stress Today

By Polly Campbell • 2 min read

The Beast Is Back: Depression

If we go looking, we can find plenty to stress about: How will I pay the bills? What will the test results show? What if I get caught in traffic?

But the biggest source of our stress comes from ruminating about the future. As if we didn’t have enough to worry about right now, when the check engine light is blinking and the minivan is filled with kidlets holding ice cream cones, we go and worry about something that might happen two weeks from now. Maybe. Perhaps.


As Calm as an Astronaut

By Sarah Newman, MA • 3 min read

AstronautsWatching the Soyuz launch to the International Space Station, I was overcome with how calm and focused the three astronauts on board appeared to be. The mission commander was peacefully controlling the Soyuz from an iPad while three stages of rockets pushed him into orbit at a rate of 4,000 miles per hour.

American astronaut Scott Kelly will not return to earth for a year. Kelly is part of a NASA twin study to explore the health effects of long-term space flight. The study is integral to one day mounting a manned mission to Mars.


5 Ways to Fight and Still Protect Your Relationship

By Ravid Yosef • 1 min read


If THIS is how your fights go, the odds aren’t in your favor (says science).

Science confirms that it’s no longer just about how you fight, it’s what you do after the argument that may determine if you’re going to go the distance.

You’ve recently argued with your significant other. Things got more heated than usual, and now all you can think about is how you wish it would have happened.

Maybe you fought dirty or didn’t get a chance to say how you really felt. Maybe the issue is still unresolved, and you don’t know how to reapproach the subject.


4 Warning Signs Marriage Therapists Use to Predict Divorce

By Marni Feuerman • 3 min read

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Fix these things or get ready to say goodbye.

Well-trained marriage therapists have most likely studied the work of Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The Gottmans have done the most extensive research on marriage and what predicts divorce. He discovered four main predictors, which he terms the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” and they are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.

All relationships have some of these, but if there are more than one present, a marriage therapist may have doubts about the longevity of the relationship.


How to Stop Avoiding What Scares or Overwhelms You

By Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. • 4 min read

We're More Forgiving to Bad Singers than to Other MusiciansRegardless of whether you struggle with anxiety, you probably avoid all sorts of things. We all do. These can include painful feelings; difficult conversations; bills and big projects; or situations where we might be judged or rejected.

We avoid these things for all sorts of reasons, according to Melanie A. Greenberg, Ph.D, a clinical psychologist in Marin County, Calif., who specializes in managing stress, mood and relationships. It can be because we’re scared or anxious; because we don’t feel competent or don’t know where to start; or because the problem feels too big.


Psychology Around the Net: March 28, 2015

By Alicia Sparks • 1 min read

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This week’s edition of Psychology Around the Net covers everything from psychology and environmentalism, a new smartphone app for teens dealing with depression, and various misconceptions about psychology.

The Surprising Psychology Behind Why Some People Become Environmentalists: Psychologists have started using tools such as surveys and questionnaires to delve into this polarized topic.


Sobriety for a Love Addict

By Michelle Kunz • 3 min read

LoveUnlike substance addictions (such as alcohol, cocaine or tobacco), love addiction is known as a process addiction. Process addictions include gambling, compulsive eating, shopping and sex addictions, and they often are more difficult to treat. Love addiction is particularly difficult because we actually do need love to function as healthy and happy human beings.

To recover, a love addict needs to learn what healthy love is. They also need to learn about their particular brand of dysfunction when it comes to their love addiction. That way, they can get their intimate connection needs met without falling into obsessive behaviors.


Why Some People Just Can’t ‘Shake It Off’

By Sarah Newman, MA • 2 min read

relationship-skills-for-conflicts-coupleMissed connections, cold shoulders, passive-aggression, bullying — like Taylor Swift says, just shake it off. But that doesn’t come easy to everyone. Maybe you experience the pain of social rejection differently.

According to a new study published in the journal Molecular Psychiatry, people suffering from depression may have a more difficult time dealing with social rejection. In fact, researchers found that brain cells produce fewer natural opioids, which reduce pain and stress, in those with untreated depression.


Andreas Lubitz: Should a Depressed Pilot Be Allowed to Fly?

By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. • 3 min read

Andreas Lubitz: Should a Depressed Pilot Be Allowed to Fly?As reports emerge overnight that Andreas Lubitz apparently suffered from depression and that he was having relationship problems, I have to wonder: Should a depressed pilot be allowed to fly? Should someone going through emotional turmoil and pain be in a position of responsibility for hundreds of people’s lives?

And I’m not just talking about pilots… Anyone responsible for a transportation vehicle — such as train engineers, subway conductors, and bus drivers — has the power to cause great havoc (and possibly even death) if they’re upset and not thinking clearly.

The Germanwings crash that resulted in the deaths of 150 people is a tragedy. But one that can be prevented in the future if we open our eyes to depression — and other mental illness — in the workplace.


Best of Our Blogs: March 27, 2015

By Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A. • 1 min read
Best of Our Blogs

When you come across an opportunity, do you move towards or find reasons to avoid it?

We are all more powerful than we realize. But when trauma, painful criticism and repeated rejection have become the norm, we shy away from amazing opportunities out of fear.

It’s the real reason why we haven’t accomplished our dreams, found love or taken the steps towards happiness.

Every time you put yourself out there, it’s a terrifying feeling of taking a jump and not knowing if something will cushion your fall.

Will they laugh at you? Will you fail? What if you’re not good enough?

The path towards success is fraught with uncertainty. But our posts this week will fill you with activities, motivation and ways of living that can change your life. You’ll learn that it’s not perfection, experience or timing that can lead to self-fulfillment. Often it’s preparation and self-compassion that can lead you towards success, happiness and love.

Leap of faith


The Healing Power of Awe

By Polly Campbell • 2 min read

sunThe mountains. The stars freckled across the sky. A fiery sunrise. A rich cup of coffee alongside a piece of flaky pie: These things are awesome.

Though I’ve seen a million sunsets and stared at the oceans for hours, I’m still moved by their wonder and mystery, touched by their beauty, and profoundly grateful that I can experience them again and again.


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