Friends

Backhanded Compliments: Identify, Recognize, & Resolve

Ever give a compliment to someone and they seemed upset with you? Maybe they did not show the gratitude you thought they would or gave you a funny look after. This could be the result of accidentally giving a backhanded compliment.

A backhanded compliment is a compliment that actually has an insult in it as well. WHAT?! I know, seems to not make much sense right? How could complimenting someone be loaded with an insult? Especially when we had no intentions of insulting the person. Unfortunately, it happens.
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Brain and Behavior

Trying to Lose Weight? Maybe You Should Ditch That New Wearable

Wearable technology -- those things people wear around their wrist to track their heart rate or number of steps walked or run -- is all the rage. This sort of personal data tracking is especially popular among younger people and those who exercise regularly. Whether it's a Fitbit, Nike+ Fuelband, a Garmin Vivofit, or some other fitness tracker, people love the ability to easily track their fitness progress over time.

But if you're wearing one of these devices while trying to lose weight, you may find it surprising that wearable technology likely won't help you -- and could even hurt (a little) in your weight loss journey.

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Best of Our Blogs

Best of Our Blogs: January 17, 2017

As I write this, it is Martin Luther King, Jr. Day. With the state of the world today, let's all take time to exercise and practice the promising dreams of a hopeful and powerful leader. On The King Center website, his wife Coretta Scott King shares the best ways we can do that.
"The Martin Luther King, Jr. Holiday celebrates the life and legacy of a man who brought hope and healing to America. We commemorate as well the timeless values he taught us through his example — the values of courage, truth, justice, compassion, dignity, humility and service that so radiantly defined Dr. King’s character and empowered his leadership. On this holiday, we commemorate the universal, unconditional love, forgiveness and nonviolence that empowered his revolutionary spirit."
Continue to celebrate with our posts this week which will enrich your relationships and change the way you think about church, compliments and codependency.
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Aging

One Year Later. Mom’s Still Dead.

Grief. It's a funny thing. I don't understand it and I don't want to, I just wish it would go away. One year and a half later and I still find myself crying mid-day because I can't call my Mom to remind me that everything is going to be okay. Sure, the impact of losing her has changed -- the first year I spent many nights dreaming about her, re-living the events leading up to her death, and wishing that I would awaken and somehow she would be there, here, with me. I cried and prayed that I would awaken and find out that this was all unreal, that she somehow miraculously came back to life! That she is still here, still alive, and still with me. Day after day, I waited, hoped, listened, for her return. Wishful thinking...and emotional exhaustion is all that I have been left with.
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ADHD and ADD

Stressed Out Teens & Empathic Parents: What to Do When It’s Contagious?

Though we hear a lot about the effect of parents on children’s development, parenting, like other close relationships, is a reciprocal interaction -- not a one-way street. Children with difficult challenges, such as executive function deficits, can tax any parent’s equilibrium. Parents of teens with such issues are often overwhelmed and under increased stress.
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Addiction

I Miss Booze

I was never a big drinker; certainly, drinking was never a problem for me.

I started drinking beer with my older brothers and hating it. It was not until I’d consumed it for a couple of years that I began to love it. We’d drink beer down by the river, standing around a huge bonfire, our fronts toasty and our backs cool in the fall air.
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Addiction

Own Your Faults and Resolve to Mend Them

“How few there are who have courage enough to own their faults, or resolution enough to mend them.” - Benjamin Franklin

Everyone has faults. Some cause only minor harm, while others get in the way of relationships, career, mental health and personal development. The issue isn’t the existence of faults, but how we deal with them.
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Industrial and Workplace

4 Steps to Help You Appear Interested Even If You’re Not

Frequently, other people are talking about a topic that we honestly are not that interested in. When we do not show interest though, there can be relationship consequences.

These consequences may include the following: the other person may become upset with us; the other person may not listen to us when we are discussing a topic we're interested in; or the other person may decide not to maintain a relationship with us.

You may ask yourself, "But why should I pretend to be interested or care when I don’t care?" The answer is to avoid these and other unpleasant consequences.
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General

How the Repeal of Obamacare Will Impact People with Mental Illness

When the Affordable Care Act ("Obamacare") was passed into law seven years ago, it signaled a fundamental change in America's healthcare system. After all, in every other first-world, industrialized nation, healthcare is a basic right of citizens. Only in the U.S. has healthcare been seen as primarily a business -- one where profits can be put before people's health.

Now as the Republicans seek to unmake Obamacare with a "repeal and replace" effort, questions have are arising about how exactly this will impact individuals -- both those who depend on Obamacare as a lifeline to affordable healthcare and those who don't. There's a lot of fear and misinformation out there right now, so I'd like to set the record straight.

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