Marriage and Divorce

The Three Relationship Killers and How to Overcome Them

As a marriage and family therapist for over 30 years, I've seen a lot of couples. And over and over, the demise of marriages and relationships in general, is not over money, children, or health but crummy communication styles. Unfortunately we were not taught in school or at home about how to communicate so we resort to a free-wheeling and unconscious style, unaware of the consequences of how our message is received.

Here are the three relationship killers of love, connection, openness, and intimacy and how to cut them off at the pass.
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Bipolar

PODCAST: Why Does Depression Make Us Feel Guilt or Shame?

In this week’s Psych Central Show, Gabe and Vincent discuss feelings of guilt surrounding a mental illness diagnosis.   Lots of us feel guilty about our diagnosis or our symptoms.  We feel badly for the effect it has on our loved ones, especially when they don’t sympathize.  Where does this stigma come from?  Why does society make us feel guilty for being sick?  Mental illness is something that happens to us, not something we do to ourselves, so why do we feel like failures?  How do we help our loved ones understand, and how do we move past this self-condemnation? Listen in to learn more.

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Anxiety and Panic

How to Keep Fear from Stealing Your Life

“Fear is a sneaky thief, stealing away precious moments of your life.” - Elizabeth Lesser
Everyone is afraid at some point. If we’re in touch with our inner selves, we know right away when that negative emotion starts clutching at our hearts. It’s a feeling of coldness, one that sneaks up and grabs hold.

You can try to shrug it off, but that’s not always easy, and it rarely works....
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Family

Eat, Pray, Relate!

Personally, I grew up with no encouragement to pray. I used to have a vague sense that prayer was for simple, naïve folks - that it was the “opiate for the masses.” So I do understand if you don’t relate to the concept.

But perhaps you do.

Because according to a Pew Research Center survey, 55% of Americans say they pray every day. Another 21% say they pray weekly or monthly. Even many who are not religiously affiliated say they pray daily.
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Caregivers

How to Stop Apologizing for Everything You Do

Do either of these situations sound familiar?

You start an email to your boss with, “I’m sorry to bother you, but…”


A colleague plops his papers down on the conference table, knocking your coffee over. “Sorry! Let me get this stuff out of your way,” you say as you begin cleaning up.

Maybe you’ve fallen into this over-apologizing trap or have found yourself saying “I’m sorry” for things that don’t merit an apology in the first place.
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Best of Our Blogs

Best of Our Blogs: December 6, 2016

One of the reasons we dread family gatherings is we can't forget what happened last year. Your uncle's insensitive remark. Your mother's judgmental words. And that hurtful thing your cousin said.

Part of you is still seething. Another part is afraid of being hurt again. After all, one of the reasons why you fear intimacy is because of experiences like that.

It's so tempting on a daily basis to be defensive, and not risk sharing ourselves.

But while being vulnerable to toxic and insensitive people is not the wisest thing, closing up is not the best either.

While you're attending events and going through your day, remember this. Everyone you meet has similar fears than you. Most people desire the same things you do. And all of us, just want to be heard, accepted and loved.

This may not be the secret recipe to cure your holiday family hangover, but let it at least be a balm. When painful words are spoken, be kind to others and most importantly, be kind to yourself.
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Brain Blogger

How Obesity Affects the Human Brain


The number of overweight and obese people (those with BMI above 25) around the world is approaching the two billion mark. This is more than 20% of estimated 7.4 billion people currently populating the planet. The connection between obesity and various chronic conditions such as cardiovascular disease, diabetes and some types of cancer is well established. Not much, however, is known about how the excess body weight influences the structure and function of brain.

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Addiction

Naloxone: How Many Second Chances Should a Person Get?


"It’s hard to feel empathy for an intoxicated person who caused a crash when you are looking at innocent people he has killed."

On November 1st, Wilmington, North Carolina resident Jonathan Hayes plowed his pickup truck into the back of a family car, killing a two-year-old boy, Mason Richardson, and injuring the boy’s pregnant mother and sibling. The fire department and EMS personnel who arrived on scene found Hayes unconscious from an apparent heroin overdose and revived him using the opioid antidote, naloxone. This was the fourth time Hayes had been brought back from an overdose with naloxone.

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