Occasionally, I post an interesting before-and-after story submitted by a reader, about how he or she successfully changed a habit. I love to hear people’s stories about habit change. We can all learn from each other. If you’d like to share your story, contact me here.
This week’s story comes from someone who wants to remain anonymous:
“Between my and my husband’s full-time jobs, work travel, and 2 young kids, I’ve often felt I had very limited time to exercise in the last few years. My favorite form of exercise is to run or hike outdoors with a good friend. I happily trained for and ran several marathons with friends before having kids. For the longest time I thought the ‘friend’ part of the equation was because I’m a fairly sociable person and often have to work alone.
“It’s nice to combine chatting and exercise. Also, meeting a friend is often the key to getting me out the door. If I don’t have a plan to meet someone, I tend to prioritize something else (work or family) even if there is no deadline for that other thing. Until reading your Four Tendencies framework and realizing I was an Obliger, I really didn’t know why.
“I began to have concerns in the past year or 2 when my previous exercise partners moved away or changed schedules, and I could not seem to make myself exercise consistently alone. I tried signing up for gym classes, large group training programs, or running events like 10Ks, but it didn’t work — I …