Coping with School Shootings
Sadly, school shootings and mass shootings in American have become commonplace. The terrorists engaging in these horrific practices aren't people we don't know. Instead, they are most often people from our own community, people who are feeling disenfranchised, unhappy, and often-times lost. They are most often white males. And they have ready access to terrifying levels of firearms.
There are no easy answers of how to reduce the frequency and death counts associated with school shootings. As you can read below, taking action such as reducing legal firearm sales or increasing access to mental health services will help, but will never be enough on their own. There is no "one-size-fits-all" solution that will help resolve this terrifying problem facing American society.
We have put together a selection of topics and resources related to mass shootings and school shootings below. We hope you find these resources helpful in trying to understand and cope with the intense emotions most people feel after one of these events. Many people experience full-blown post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) or have overwhelming feelings of grief and loss. It helps to understand these feelings and symptoms so you can take action to do something to help yourself.
Survivor's guilt is also a real thing -- people feel incredibly guilty and depressed that they somehow managed to live through the event, while a good friend or sibling was not as lucky.
These are sad and tragic times. While I hope that you'll never need to make use of any of the resources listed below, I hope that if you do you'll find something useful here... Something to make it a little bit easier to live another day, something that may lift your burden, if even just a little.
School Shootings, Grief, & PTSD
Mass shootings and school shootings come with an extraordinary amount of grief and sense of loss. Those who have experienced it first-hand often suffer from symptoms of PTSD. If you feel overwhelmed by what just happened, take care of yourself and consider talking to a professional if those feelings stop you from living your life for more than a couple of weeks.
- An Overview of PTSD
- Symptoms of PTSD
- Treatment for PTSD
- 5 Stages of Grief and Loss
- Preparing for Grief
- 8 Tips To Help Console a Grieving Friend
- Survivor Guilt and Re-Opened Wounds
- 8 Steps to Take after a School Shooting
- Dear Parkland … When Community Violence Shakes Your Hope, Faith, and Courage
The Psychology & Politics of School Shootings
People often ask, "Why did this happen? What can we do to stop things like this from happening again in the future?" The answers are not straightforward or easy, and they would require significant changes be made in our society about what we prioritize and value. If we value people's mental health and treatment, then we need to expend more resources in providing those kinds of services to those most in need.
- Another School Shooting, Another Week in America
- School Shootings: Symptoms of an American Disease
- The Psychology of a School Shooting: TJ Lane in Chardon, Ohio
- Congress & Policymakers: Stop Scapegoating Mental Illness in Mass Shootings
- Why Do They Blame Every School Shooting On Autism?
- We Should Not Blame Mass Shootings On Mental Illness
- School Shootings Are By Psychopaths, Not People With Asperger’s Syndrome
- Improved Mental Health Treatment Won’t Impact Mass Shootings or School Killings
- Gunning for a Solution
Parental Resources for School Shootings
Parents have an especially difficult task in front of them -- trying to explain and make sense of a senseless act of violence and hatred. Helping your teen or child cope after a tragic event like this can be challenging, but hopefully these resources can be of some help in how to talk to a child or teen about it.
- Tips for Talking to Students About a School Shooting
- How to Reduce Anxiety in Kids after a School Shooting
- Violence in Children and School Shootings
- 5 Things We Can Do: Responding to the Newtown, CT Shooting
- Taling to your children about the recent spate of school shootings (American Psychological Association)
- In the aftermath of a shooting (American Psychological Association)
Get Further Help
- Our Psychotherapy Support Group
- Our Grief Support Group
- Finding Low-Cost Psychotherapy
- Find a Therapist Now
- Book Review: School Shooters: Understanding High School, College & Adult Perpetrators