The Psych Central Report

Life or Something Like It

John M. Grohol, Psy.D.
May 2005

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You've heard it a million times. Enjoy life, it's too short to take for granted. Yet how can you when you're grappling with your own issues. You feel miserable, unhappy, anxious. How can life be enjoyable when you feel this way?

If I Could Enjoy Life…

You're right, of course. If you could enjoy life, half of your problems would be gone. If you could find some pleasure to take from your relationships, you'd be taking it. If you could find a way to concentrate on what you need to do, you wouldn't feel overwhelmed by work, home, and friends.

If you could do any of this, you probably wouldn't be reading this article.

Taking Life for Granted

I take my life for granted, and so much that happens in my world, I also too often take for granted. I have no one to blame for this except for myself. I am thankful for all that I have, but all too often - like many of us - I don't often stop to smell the roses or to appreciate the beauty of life. There is so much beauty surrounding us, each and every day, it can be breathtaking. The problem is, we often don't notice it. Or if we do, we notice it because it's gotten in the way.

But life is not just one more thing to analyze, dissect, and then move on to the next thing. It is the next thing. It is the only thing. And it is yours, to do with as you please. Or to give away your power and control and let others decide your life for you. It is your choice and you make it every day when you first open your eyes. "Should I do the usual? Should I give up control over my life again today? Should I change everything?"

From that moment on, life happens not to you, but because of you.

Spring Flowers

Spring sometimes does this to a person. It makes you stop and think as the world is blooming all around you. It reminds you that there is a natural cycle to nature and a natural cycle to life.

It's easy to take things for granted. To take the people you care about in your life for granted, to just assume they will always be there. That there will always be a "later" time when you can make things right. Or say you're sorry. Or say I love you. But the fact is, life comes and goes in the blink of an eye. There is no tomorrow, there is only today.

Stop what you're doing for a moment and think. Just think. Remember that you're alive, you're breathing and that, for the most part, you have a life. Remember that the people in your life and not just nameless others, but other feeling, emotional beings just like yourself. Folks who need love and acceptance and care just like you.

And then remember one more thing. Without you, your life ends. With you, your life begins. Begin your life anew today.

Last updated: 3 May 2005
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 3 May 2005
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