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Staking Happiness on Marriage May Be A Long Shot

Was William Shakespeare on to something when he wrote, “Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?”

According to a new study from researchers at Michigan State University, there’s a good chance he was wrong.

That’s according to the findings of their new research, which attempted to quantify the happiness of married, formerly married, and single people at the end of their lives to find out just how much love and marriage played into overall well-being.

For the study, the researchers examined the relationship histories of 7,532 people followed from the age of 18 to 60 to determine who reported to be happiest at the end of their lives.

“People often think that they need to be married to be happy, so we asked the questions, ‘Do people need to be in a relationship to be happy? Does living single your whole life translate to unhappiness? What about if you were married at some point but it didn’t work out?,'” said Dr. William Chopik, an assistant professor of psychology at Michigan State University and co-author of the paper. “Turns out, staking your happiness on being married isn’t a sure bet.”

Chopik and Mariah Purol, an MSU psychology master’s student and co-author, found that participants fell into one of three groups:

  1. 79 percent were “consistently married,” spending the majority of their lives in one marriage;
  2. 8 percent were “consistently single,” or spent most of their lives unmarried; and
  3. 13 percent had varied histories or a history of moving in and out of relationships, divorce, remarrying, or becoming widowed.

The researchers then asked participants to rate overall happiness when they were older adults and compared it with the group into which they fell.

“We were surprised to find that lifelong singles and those who had varied relationship histories didn’t differ in how happy they were,” said Purol. “This suggests that those who have ‘loved and lost’ are just as happy towards the end of life than those who ‘never loved at all.'”

While married people showed a slight uptick in happiness, Purol said the margin was not substantial — nor what many may expect.

If those in the consistently married group answered a 4 out of 5 on how happy they were, consistently single people answered a 3.82, while those with varied history answered a 3.7.

“When it comes to happiness, whether someone is in a relationship or not is rarely the whole story,” Chopik said. “People can certainly be in unhappy relationships, and single people derive enjoyment from all sorts of other parts of their lives, like their friendships, hobbies, and work. In retrospect, if the goal is to find happiness, it seems a little silly that people put so much stock in being partnered.”

If someone longs for a lifelong partner to start a family and build a happy life together, the new study’s findings suggest that if that individual isn’t completely happy to begin with, getting married won’t likely dramatically change it all.

“It seems like it may be less about the marriage and more about the mindset,” Purol said. “If you can find happiness and fulfillment as a single person, you’ll likely hold onto that happiness — whether there’s a ring on your finger or not.”

The study was published in the Journal of Positive Psychology.

Source: Michigan State University

Staking Happiness on Marriage May Be A Long Shot

Janice Wood

Janice Wood is a long-time writer and editor who began working at a daily newspaper before graduating from college. She has worked at a variety of newspapers, magazines and websites, covering everything from aviation to finance to healthcare.

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Wood, J. (2020). Staking Happiness on Marriage May Be A Long Shot. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 23, 2020, from https://psychcentral.com/news/2020/07/25/staking-happiness-on-marriage-may-be-a-long-shot/158380.html
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