New research confirms the importance of sustaining a strong relationship between teenagers and both parents after a divorce. Maintaining a close association with the father is especially important; Norwegian investigators discovered conversational difficulties between a father and child can negatively affect a child’s health.
“This demonstrates that contact with both parents after a divorce is important,” said Professor Eivind Meland, University of Bergen. According to numbers from the Norwegian Institute of Public Health around 40 per cent of all teenagers have experienced a divorce.
“We wanted to explore what happens to the communication between parents and children after a divorce and how this impact the children’s future health,” Meland said.
The study included 1225 youths from the former region of Sogn of Fjordane. They were asked if they found it easy or difficult to talk with their parents. The answers were graded from “very easy” to “very hard or lost contact.”
The researchers also asked the children about their health complaints and self-esteem. The health complaints included various physical and psychological symptoms, such as headaches, dizziness, stomach aches, anxiety, depression and trouble sleeping.
They asked the children in 2011 and in 2013. In 2011, 213 of these children had divorced parents. Two years later the number had increased to 270.
“The divorce did not seem to affect how they communicate with their mother, but are strongly connected to conversational difficulties with father,” Meland said. “We also see that closeness to both father and mother impacts the children’s health two year after the divorce.”
The researchers discovered a clear connection between how easy the children found to talk with their father after divorce and health complaints later in life. “Those children that reported having lost contact or who find it difficult to talk with their father after divorce also had most health complaints,” said Meland.
They also saw a clear connection between the divorce and conversational difficulties between children and fathers.
“It seems like conversational difficulties between children and father was present also before the divorce, but we also see that the divorce weakens the relationship between the children and their fathers,” Meland said.
If the children reported having a good relationship with both parents after the divorce, the divorce did not seem to affect the self-esteem or health to the children in any negative manner.
Perhaps not surprisingly, the study found that girls have more difficulties talking with their fathers than the boys. Daughters also reported having more health complaints, but the consequence of conversational difficulties seemed to be the same for both sexes.
“In the data we can see the tendency that girls suffer more from having lost contact with their fathers, but the difference is not significant,” the researcher said.
Researchers captured information on which parent was the child’s main caregiver and where the children lived. However, this data was not considered reliable enough to be included in the article. Investigators did discover that three times as many children reported having lost contact with their fathers than with their mothers:
“If the divorce is taken to court, it is the mother that most often ends up with the status as the main caregiver,” says Meland, but adds that he sees a tendency towards that the parents decide to share the custody.
Meland strongly believes that the importance of maintaining a close relationship between father and child after a divorce is a neglected subject.
“Our research clearly shows that a strong relationship with both parents is important for the children’s health. This should impact the family policy,” he said.
Source: The University of Bergen