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Parent Burnout Not Good for Parent or Child

For most people, the term “burnout” is associated with a job or career, but new research now suggests individuals can become burnt out when the daily stress of parenting becomes chronic. The burnout results in an intense exhaustion that leads parents to feel detached from their children and unsure of their parenting abilities.

Researchers believe this type of burnout can have serious consequences for both parent and child, increasing parental neglect, harm and thoughts of escape.

“In the current cultural context, there is a lot of pressure on parents,” says lead researcher Moïra Mikolajczak of UCLouvain. “But being a perfect parent is impossible and attempting to be one can lead to exhaustion. Our research suggests that whatever allows parents to recharge their batteries, to avoid exhaustion, is good for children.”

Mikolajczak and coauthors, James J. Gross of Stanford University and Isabelle Roskam of UCLouvain, became interested in the issue through their clinical encounters with good parents who, as a result of their exhaustion, had become the opposite of what they were trying to be.

Although previous research had explored the causes of parental burnout, relatively little was known about its consequences. The researchers decided to directly examine the outcomes associated with parental burnout in two studies that followed parents over time.

Their findings are published in Clinical Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science.

In the first study, Mikolajczak and colleagues recruited parents through social networks, schools, pediatricians, and other sources to participate in research on “parental well-being and exhaustion.” The parents, mostly French-speaking adults in Belgium, completed three batches of online surveys spaced about 5.5 months apart.

Four surveys were performed, including a 22-item measure of parental burnout that gauged parents’ emotional exhaustion, emotional distancing and feelings of inefficacy. Another six-item measure assessed a parent’s thoughts about escaping their family. The third tool was a 17-item measure that objectively documented the degree to which a parent neglected their children’s physical, educational and emotional needs. Finally, parents were given a 15-item measure that judged their tendency to engage in verbal, physical or psychological violence.

Because many of the questions asked about sensitive topics, the researchers also measured participants’ tendency to choose the most socially desirable responses when confronted with probing questions.

A total of 2,068 parents participated in the first survey, with 557 still participating at the third survey.

Participants’ data revealed a strong association between burnout and the three variables — escape ideation, parental neglect and parental violence — at each of the three time points.

Parental burnout at the first and second survey was associated with later parental neglect, parental violence and escape ideation.

The researchers found that parental burnout and parental neglect had a circular relationship: Parental burnout led to increased parental neglect, which led to increased burnout, and so on. Parental violence appeared to be a clear consequence of burnout.

Importantly, all of these patterns held even when the researchers took participants’ tendency toward socially desirable responses into account.

A second online study with mostly English-speaking parents in the UK produced similar findings. Together, the data suggest that parental burnout is likely the cause of escape ideation, parental neglect and parental violence.

“We were a bit surprised by the irony of the results,” says Mikolajczak.

“If you want to do the right thing too much, you can end up doing the wrong thing. Too much pressure on parents can lead them to exhaustion which can have damaging consequences for the parent and for the children.”

Researchers admit that additional studies are needed to confirm and extend these findings with broader samples and measures. Nonetheless, the robust pattern of results suggests that there are important lessons to be learned from these findings.

“Parents need to know that self-care is good for the child and that when they feel severely exhausted, they should seek help.

Health and child services professionals need to be informed about parental burnout so that they can accurately diagnose it and provide parents with the most appropriate care. And those engaged in policy and public health need to help raise awareness and lift the taboo on parental burnout, which will encourage parents to seek the help they need,” Mikolajczak concludes.

Source: Association for Psychological Science

Parent Burnout Not Good for Parent or Child

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

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Nauert PhD, R. (2019). Parent Burnout Not Good for Parent or Child. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 29, 2020, from
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Last updated: 12 Sep 2019 (Originally: 13 Sep 2019)
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