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Interpersonal Relations: Opposite Pairs Can Make Rewarding Decisions

Interpersonal Relations: Opposite Pairs Can Make Rewarding Decisions

New research confirms that while opposites may attract and drive each other a little crazy, oppositional viewpoints may be overcome with unique decision-making compromises that allow each party to be satisfied with joint decisions.

Investigators from Boston College, Georgia Tech, and Washington State University specifically explored how selfish and altruistic consumers join in decision making. Although partners and colleagues may have opposite attitudes, they still must routinely make joint decisions — which restaurant to eat in, what movie to watch or where to go on vacation.

In the study, researchers wanted to see if people with opposite attitudes could come to satisfactory decisions together. Investigators found that when paired with a selfish partner, it is better to behave altruistically rather than selfishly. Similarly, when paired with an altruistic partner, it is better to behave selfishly to achieve a desired outcome.

In both scenarios, the paired respondents were able to come to decisions that best reflected their individual preferences, or what both partners personally liked — if they took the opposite attitude as that of their partner — explains Boston College Assistant Professor of Marketing, Hristina Nikolova.

“When you see that your partner is acting selfishly, it is better to let it go and act altruistically instead; let them make the decision because this will ultimately ensure a better outcome for you than if you act selfishly too,” said Nikolova.

Nikolova is a co-author of the article “Ceding and Succeeding: How the Altruistic Can Benefit from the Selfish in Joint Decisions,” published in the Journal of Consumer Psychology.

“In the joint decision-making of an altruistic and selfish consumer, the selfish partner would willingly express her desired preference, while the altruistic partner will likely accept these suggestions,” Nikolova continued.

“Since consumers’ preferences are more similar than they recognize, an altruistic individual will likely get an option that she somewhat prefers even when a selfish partner drives the decision. Thus, regardless of who drives the decision, both partners are likely to reach a joint decision that is relatively preferred by both of them.”

Although conventional wisdom suggests that maintaining one’s belief is associated with positive outcomes, researchers discovered that’s not necessarily the case when paired with an opposite.

“In the context of joint choices, however, we find that two selfish heads do worse than one altruistic and one selfish head; two selfish consumers jointly choose options that neither of them prefers. This happens because both partners are likely to be rigidly self-oriented when negotiating with others,” she said.

For those who are selfish in nature, conceding runs counter to their nature. The study found that selfish individuals are likely to meet suggestions with counteroffers even when the suggestions somewhat coincide with their own preferences, Nikolova said. And that might actually be a bad thing.

“This propensity to counteroffer rather than concede inadvertently leads to negotiation,” she said. “The two selfish partners trade rejected offers until they land on an option that is further down both of their preference lists but is deemed acceptable by both partners.”

Investigators note that there is limited research on joint decision-making in the fields of marketing and consumer behavior.

Nikolova believes future studies will investigate how interpersonal orientations influence decision making. While the current study examined decision outcomes among pairs of individuals, the focus did not include investigation on how the pairs went about making their specific decisions.

She said she hopes to look at whether pairs with similar outlooks — two selfish persons, or two altruistic persons — use the same decision tactics as paired opposites. That would require a closer look at the decision process, rather than the outcome.

Source: Boston College/EurekAlert

Interpersonal Relations: Opposite Pairs Can Make Rewarding Decisions

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

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Nauert PhD, R. (2019). Interpersonal Relations: Opposite Pairs Can Make Rewarding Decisions. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 26, 2020, from
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