Status Symbols May Not Attract New Friends – Just The Opposite
A new study suggests the desire to appear successful as a means to gain new friends may actually be counterproductive. In fact, lavish accoutrements can actually repel prospective acquaintances.
“Oftentimes we think that status symbols — whether a luxury car like a BMW, a brand name purse like Prada, or an expensive watch like Rolex — will make us look more socially attractive to others,” said researcher Dr. Stephen Garcia of the University of Michigan.
“However, our research suggests that these status signals actually make us look less socially attractive, not more.”
The scientists conducted a series of six studies, where participants either presented themselves as possible friends, or they were the people evaluating who they would want to be their friends.
Throughout the studies, people presenting themselves to a new group chose higher status items. Yet for the people asked about who they would want to be friends with, they preferred people with lower or neutral status symbols.
The study appears in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science.
The researchers used a novel method to control for the possibility that a luxury good might play a role in people’s reactions. They did this by asking people which of two plain T-shirts participants would wear to a picnic in their efforts to make new friends.
One t-shirt had “Walmart” written on it in plain script, and the other t-shirt had “Saks Fifth Avenue” written on it in plain script.
While the shirts were not luxury items, 76 percent of the participants who presented themselves as new friends chose to wear the T-shirt that said, “Saks Fifth Avenue,” whereas 64 percent of the would-be friends chose the person wearing the “Walmart” T-shirt.
The results appear to be consistent across socioeconomic groups. The only difference is that what is considered high status depends on one’s socioeconomic status.
“At a societal level, we may be wasting billions of dollars on expensive status symbols that ultimately keep others from wanting to associate with us,” said co-author Dr. Kimberlee Weaver Livnat, now of the University of Haifa in Israel.
“And to the extent that close friendships are important to well-being, we may be inadvertently hurting ourselves.”
The researchers will now investigate the mechanism of why presenters are making this error. Is it that people often fail to take the perspective of others who are evaluating them as potential friends?
Or do they accurately understand the perspective of the potential friends, but for some reason, chose status symbols when presenting themselves anyway?
Does this mean that status symbols are always bad? “No, not necessarily,” said Dr. Patricia Chen of the National University of Singapore.
“Our findings right now only apply to the formation of new friendships. Status symbols may very well be beneficial at other times and in other settings, such as when trying to establish new business contacts.”
Indeed, in a final study included in the paper, the researchers discovered that signaling high status symbols can, in fact, be helpful in attracting potential contacts, although not much more than neutral status symbols.
Nauert PhD, R. (2018). Status Symbols May Not Attract New Friends – Just The Opposite. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 22, 2020, from https://psychcentral.com/news/2018/08/17/status-symbols-may-not-attract-new-friends-just-the-opposite/137925.html