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Relationship Strategies for Parents of Autistic Children

Relationship Strategies for Parents of Autistic Children

Maintaining relationship quality is a challenging task for many parents. The task becomes more daunting for couples who have a child with an autism spectrum disorder (ASD).

A new study looks at the daily experiences of parents of ASD children to provide a more detailed picture of the strengths and vulnerabilities couples may face.

“I think we can use these findings to develop more effective therapies and strategies to address potential challenges in couple relationships for parents of children with ASD,” said Dr. Sigan Hartley, lead author of the new study.

Previous findings have shown that, on average, couples with a child with ASD have higher risks of divorce and lower satisfaction with their marriages when compared to couples with a typically developing child.

“What has been missing is research that really gets at the details of what is actually happening in the day-to-day lives of these couples,” said Hartley, a Waisman Center researcher and 100 Women Chair in Human Ecology at University of Wisconsin, Madison.

To fill in this gap in the research, Hartley and her colleagues examined the daily experiences of 174 couples who have a child with ASD and 179 couples with a typically developing child.

Each couple kept separate “daily diaries” for two weeks, and recorded information like how much time they spent with their partners, how supported they felt, how close they felt to their partners, and the positive or negative interactions they had with them.

“These measures really let us understand how couple relationships are being altered for parents of children with ASD,” said Hartley.

As presented in theĀ Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders, researchers found a combination of vulnerabilities and strengths.

Couples parenting a child with ASD reported spending an average of 21 fewer minutes per day with their partners compared to couples with a typically developing child.

That may not sound like a lot of time, but “those 21 minutes add up over weeks and months to almost 128 fewer hours spent together over a year,” says Hartley.

Spending less time together could account for why parents of children with ASD reported feeling less closeness to their partners than those raising typically developing children.

The ASD group of parents also reported fewer positive interactions, such as sharing jokes, having a meaningful conversation, or being intimate.

“Parents of children with ASD may have more demands on their time,” said Hartley. “They may have to navigate therapy sessions or manage special education or interventions.”

On the other hand, parents of a child with ASD showed no increase in negative interactions, like critical comments or avoiding their partner, when compared to couples with a typically developing child.

These couples also felt as supported by their partners as couples with typically developing children.

“These are important relationship strengths that couples who are parenting a child with ASD can build on,” Hartley said. Finding ways to strengthen their couple dynamics can help their children as well.

“Just like any child, a child with ASD affects, and is affected by, the entire family,” said Hartley.

“Developing therapies or strategies that help parents thrive and keep their relationships strong is critical for the long-term success of children.”

Source: University of Wisconsin

Relationship Strategies for Parents of Autistic Children

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

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Nauert PhD, R. (2018). Relationship Strategies for Parents of Autistic Children. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 26, 2020, from
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Last updated: 8 Aug 2018 (Originally: 22 Mar 2017)
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