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Compassionate Acts for Spouse Can Boost Well-Being

Compassionate Acts for Spouse Can Boost Well-Being

The maxim that it is better to give than to receive gets some specific support from a new study that finds evidence that being compassionate to a spouse is rewarding in and of itself.

In the study, published in the journal Emotion, psychologists discovered the emotional benefits of compassionate acts are significant for the giver, whether or not the recipient is even aware of the act.

For example, if a husband notices that the tires on his wife’s car need air, he may air them up before driving to work. That gesture would boost his emotional well-being, regardless of whether his wife notices.

In the study, Dr. Harry Reis, a professor of psychology at the University of Rochester in New York, led a research team that studied 175 North American newlywed husbands and wives who were married an average of 7.17 months.

“Our study was designed to test a hypothesis put forth by Tenzin Gyatso, the current Dalai Lama,” said Reis, “that compassionate concern for others’ welfare enhances one’s own affective state.”

The team of psychologists, which included Drs. Ronald Rogge of Rochester and Michael Maniaci of Florida Atlantic University, asked participants to keep a two-week daily diary to record those instances in which either spouse put aside personal wishes in order to meet the partner’s needs.

But the researchers also needed to assess the emotional well-being of the individuals. To that end, the participants kept track of their daily emotional states for each day based on 14 positive and negative terms, such as enthusiastic, happy, calm, sad, angry, and hurt.

Over the course of the 14 days, husbands and wives reported giving and receiving an average of .65 and .59 compassionate acts each day with husbands perceiving more such acts than did their partners.

The acts included such things as changing personal plans for the partner’s sake, doing something that showed the partner was valued, and expressing tenderness for the spouse.

Before the study, the researchers predicted that the greatest impact on the donor would come when the act was recognized by the recipient, because recognition would make the donor feel valued.

They also thought the recipient would feel the most benefit when the act was mutually recognized, as opposed to those times when one partner perceived a compassionate act that wasn’t actually intended. While those predictions were confirmed, the researchers discovered something else.

“Clearly, a recipient needs to notice a compassionate act in order to emotionally benefit from it,” said Reis. “But recognition is much less a factor for the donor.”

Researchers discovered that donors benefit from compassionate acts, regardless of whether the recipient explicitly notices the acts.

And in those cases, the benefits for the donors was about 45 percent greater than for the recipients, as determined by the self-assessment scales in the daily diaries, with the effect being equally strong for men and women.

For Reis, the results suggest that “acting compassionately may be its own reward.”

Reis is now studying the emotional benefits of spending money on others. The work, although preliminary, suggests that spending on others can make a person feel better, but only when the goal is to benefit that person.

Spending to impress them with generosity or vision doesn’t do the trick.

Source: University of Rochester

Compassionate Acts for Spouse Can Boost Well-Being

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

APA Reference
Nauert PhD, R. (2017). Compassionate Acts for Spouse Can Boost Well-Being. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 20, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/news/2017/02/16/compassionate-acts-for-spouse-can-boost-well-being/116511.html

 

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