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Some Older Adults Embrace ‘Living Apart Together'

Some Older Adults Embrace ‘Living Apart Together’

A new study examines how a new phenomenon among older, divorced adults, called “Living Apart Together,” can affect family needs.

Living Apart Together (LAT) is an intimate relationship without sharing a residence. While the trend is well-understood in Europe, is lesser known in the U.S., according to researchers at the University of Missouri-Columbia. This means that challenges, such as how LAT partners can engage in family caregiving or decision-making, could affect not only the couple, but their entire families.

“What has long been understood about late-in-life relationships is largely based on long-term marriage,” said Dr. Jacquelyn Benson, an assistant professor in the College of Human Environmental Sciences. “There are now more divorced and widowed adults who are interested in forging new intimate relationships outside the confines of marriage.

“Recent research demonstrates that there are other ways of establishing long-lasting, high-quality relationships without committing to marriage or living together. However, U.S. society has yet to recognize LAT as a legitimate choice. If more people — young and old, married or not — saw LAT as an option, it might save them from a lot of future heartache.”

For the study, Benson and Dr. Marilyn Coleman, Curators Professor of Human Development and Family Science, interviewed adults who were at least 60 years old and in committed relationships but lived apart.

The researchers found that couples were motivated by desires to stay independent, maintain their own homes, sustain existing family boundaries and remain financially independent.

Couples expressed challenges defining their relationships or choosing terms to properly convey the nature of their relationships to others. For example, the majority considered traditional dating terms such as boyfriend and girlfriend to be awkward at their ages.

“While we are learning more about LAT relationships, further research is needed to determine how LAT relationships are related to issues such as health care and caregiving,” Benson said.

“Discussions about end-of-life planning and caregiving can be sensitive to talk about, however, LAT couples should make it a priority to have these conversations, both as a couple and with their families. Many of us wait until a crisis to address those issues, but in situations like LAT where there are no socially prescribed norms dictating behavior, these conversations may be more important than ever.”

Source: University of Missouri-Columbia
 
Photo: Jacquelyn Benson, assistant professor of human development and family science, says that if more people — young and old, married or not — saw ‘Living Apart Together’ as an option, it might save them from a lot of future heartache.Credit: MU News Bureau.

Some Older Adults Embrace ‘Living Apart Together’

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Wood, J. (2017). Some Older Adults Embrace ‘Living Apart Together’. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 24, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/news/2017/02/11/some-older-adults-embrace-living-apart-together/116309.html

 

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