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Extra Love May Be Best Tonic for Partner with the Blues

Extra Love May Be Best Tonic for Partner with the Blues

New research suggests the more depressed your romantic partner may be, the more love you should give them. And, this often includes taking more responsibility for day-to-day tasks.

Investigators from University of Alberta say that although it can be tempting to pull back, helping your loved one stick it out through a bout of depression can help their future mental health.

“Efforts from a partner to help alleviate stress may prevent the development or worsening of mental health problems and, in fact, could help keep the relationship healthy,” said relationships researcher┬áProfessor Matthew Johnson.

Stress takes a toll on physical and mental health, as well as close relationships. Partner provided support can help a person better cope with feeling overwhelmed.

“When we experience stress, especially high levels of stress, we are particularly vulnerable and perhaps that’s why partner support in those times is so impactful and long-lasting,” said Johnson.

Researchers surveyed couples on their levels of depression, self-esteem, and mutual support. They discovered that the support given when a mate was feeling stressed was linked to future feelings of self-worth and depression.

For example, men’s feelings of self-esteem got a boost from supporting a depressed partner.

“Giving to their partner made them feel better about themselves,” Johnson said.

For women, receiving support from their partner led to increased self-esteem and reduced depression in the future.

The study, published in Educational Psychology, also showed that women with higher-self-esteem and men with fewer symptoms of depression received more support from their partners in times of stress.

“Those who have better mental health to start with may have the capacity to reach out for support when needed and are better able to manage stress on their own, but they are likely not the people who would benefit most from a partner’s help,” Johnson noted.

But giving support to a partner who needs it most can be difficult, he added.

“When someone is depressed or has low-self-worth, they may lash out. A partner offering support reaffirms feelings of depression and helplessness, of the feeling that they have to pick up the slack,” Johnson said.

In the face of negative reaction, Johnson suggested offering “invisible support.”

“Studies suggest offering support your partner may not even be aware of, but would still be a helpful gesture, like taking care of a sink full of dirty dishes they haven’t seen yet. You can offer support, just don’t draw attention to it.”

Other ways to help a partner struggling with feelings of sadness or self-doubt include lending an empathetic ear if they want to express themselves and on a more practical level, stepping up and assuming more of an active role in tasks at hand.

“Handling the logistics of daily life by offering to take on tasks that aren’t normally yours,” such as planning meals or driving children to school, can also be beneficial, said Johnson.

Source: University of Alberta/EurekAlert

Extra Love May Be Best Tonic for Partner with the Blues

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

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Nauert PhD, R. (2017). Extra Love May Be Best Tonic for Partner with the Blues. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 25, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/news/2017/02/09/extra-love-may-be-best-tonic-for-partner-with-the-blues/116238.html

 

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