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Faking Orgasm to End “Bad Sex”

New research finds that women may fake sexual pleasures as a way to end unwanted and unpleasurable sex.

The finding stems from a a qualitative study by Emily Thomas (Ryerson University, Canada) Monika Stelzl, and Michelle Lafrance (St. Thomas University, Canada) presented at the British Psychological Society’s Psychology of Women annual conference in Windsor.

Researchers discovered that when talking about troubling sexual encounters some women mention faking sexual pleasure to speed up their male partner’s orgasm and ultimately end sex.

Thomas explains, “While some women spoke about faking orgasm in positive ways, for instance, as a pleasurable experience that heightened their own arousal, many talked about feigning pleasure in the context of unwanted and unpleasurable sexual experiences.

Within these accounts, we were struck by the degree to which women were connecting the practice of faking orgasm to accounts of unwanted sex.”

In the study 15 women (aged 19 -28) who had been sexually active for at least one year were interviewed to talk about experiences of feigning sexual pleasure.

Despite being recruited to talk about consensual sex, all women spoke explicitly of a problematic sexual experience.

Researchers analyzed the interviews to explore how these women negotiate and account for experiences of problem sex in the context of exaggerating sexual pleasure and faking orgasm.

Investigators discovered that the women never used terms such as rape and coercion to refer to their own experiences — despite their descriptions of events that could be categorized as such.

Instead, women described their experiences of unwanted sex in indirect ways. For example, women used the term ‘bad’ to describe sex that was both unwanted and unpleasurable.

The women spoke of faking orgasm as a means to ending these troubling sexual encounters. In other words, faking orgasm provided a solution for ending sex where, culturally, not many options are available.

“It appears that faking orgasm is both problematic and helpful at the same time. On one level faking an orgasm may be a useful strategy as it affords some control over ending a sexual encounter.

“We are not criticizing faking practice on an individual level. We want to focus on the problems with our current lack of available language to describe women’s experiences that acknowledges, names, and confronts the issues women spoke of in our interviews.”

Source: British Psychology Association/EurekAlert

Faking Orgasm to End “Bad Sex”

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

APA Reference
Nauert PhD, R. (2016). Faking Orgasm to End “Bad Sex”. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 22, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/news/2016/07/11/faking-orgasm-to-end-bad-sex/106994.html

 

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