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Mate Satisfaction Influenced by Availability of Other Options

Mate Satisfaction Influenced by Availability of Other Options

New research suggests satisfaction with a relationship is gauged by who else is available and how much work it would take to find a new mate as good or better than the one you have now.

University of Texas researchers say their findings are reflective of evolution’s hold on modern relationship psychology.

When it comes to mating, people choose partners whose collective qualities most closely reflect what they would prefer in an ideal mate. Partners are selected from a prioritization of traits such as intelligence, health, kindness, attractiveness, dependability, and financial prospects.

University of Texas, Austin psychology researcher Dr. Daniel Conroy-Beam and his collaborators tested how mate preferences influence behavior and emotions in relationships. Their study is in press in the journal Evolution & Human Behavior.

“Few decisions impact fitness more than mate selection, so natural selection has endowed us with a set of powerfully motivating mate preferences,” Conroy-Beam said.

“We demonstrate that mate preferences continue to shape our feelings and behaviors within relationships in at least two key ways: by interacting with nuanced emotional systems such as how happy we are with our partner and by influencing how much or little effort we devote to keeping them.”

For the study, researchers simulated a mating pool from 119 men and 140 women who had been in relationships for an average of seven and a half years. Each participant rated the importance of 27 traits in an ideal mate and the extent to which they felt each trait described both their actual partner and themselves.

Researchers then calculated each of the participants’ and their partners’ mate value, or desirability within the mating pool as determined by the group’s average ideal preferences.

Participants also reported their relationship satisfaction and happiness. Researchers discovered satisfaction was not reliably dependent on how a partner compared with a person’s idea of the perfect mate. Instead, researchers found that satisfaction was determined by comparing if others in the mating pool better matched a person’s ideal preferences.

Those with partners more desirable than themselves were satisfied whether or not their partners matched their ideal preferences. But, participants with partners less desirable than themselves were happy with their relationship only if their partner fulfilled their ideal preferences better than most other potential mates in the group, Conroy-Beam said.

“Satisfaction and happiness are not as clear cut as we think they are,” Conroy-Beam said.

“We do not need ideal partners for relationship bliss. Instead, satisfaction appears to come, in part, from getting the best partner available to us.”

In a follow-up study, the researchers again tested relationship satisfaction but also surveyed participants’ mate retention efforts —¬†energy devoted to maintaining their relationships.

They found that people with partners difficult to replace, either because their partner was more desirable than themselves or their partner more closely matched their ideal preferences than others in the group, reported being happier and devoted more effort to mate retention.

This included making themselves extra attractive for their partners and “mate guarding,” or shielding their partners from mating rivals to help keep their partners, Conroy-Beam said.

“Relationship dissatisfaction and mate guarding intensity, in turn, are key processes linked to outcomes such as infidelity and breaking up, both of which can be costly in evolutionary currencies,” said co-author and psychology professor Dr. David Buss.

Source: University of Texas at Austin

Mate Satisfaction Influenced by Availability of Other Options

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

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Nauert PhD, R. (2016). Mate Satisfaction Influenced by Availability of Other Options. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 21, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/news/2016/05/18/relationship-satisfaction-influenced-by-availability-of-other-options/103515.html

 

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