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Second Child Can Be Easier for Couples to Manage

The birth of a first child often leaves married couples feeling overwhelmed and stressed with less martial satisfaction. Life transitions after the second child, however, may not be as difficult.

University of Michigan researchers discovered that although the second birth does come with an adjustment period of approximately four weeks, couples often adapt to the changes by four months — and the quality of their marriage returns to where it was before the birth.

The study appears in the journal Couple and Family Psychology: Research and Practice.

The finding of a relatively smooth adjustment for parents is in contrast to other studies that suggest marital satisfaction declines after the birth of the first child and continues to decline with each additional child.

However, when University of Michigan researchers and colleagues examined marital changes one year after the birth of the second child, most couples were more positive than negative about their marriages and managed the transition with little change.

Overall, couples experienced some minor disruption as the new baby was added to the family.

“Even when there was significant change, it was often short-lived, attesting to family resilience rather than crisis after the birth of a couple’s second child,” said Dr. Brenda Volling, a psychology professor and the study’s lead author.

The sample included more than 200 married couples who were tracked from the last trimester of pregnancy through one, four, eight, and 12 months postpartum. Couples completed self-reports on marital communication, parenting stress, support from family and friends, and their overall satisfaction with their marriage.

Six different types of marriages were found based on how marital relations changed over the year following the birth. Many couples (44 percent) had wives reporting small declines in positive marital relations, but no increase in marital conflict. Husbands reported a honeymoon period with less conflict in the month following the birth.

Some couples did have a more difficult time. Husbands and wives had different views about their marriages, with the men claiming their marriages were more satisfying and positive than the women, the study indicated.

Earlier studies found that couples became more traditional in their household and childrearing responsibilities after the birth of a first child. Wives did more work than husbands.

These changes in the traditional division of labor, noted Volling, were often blamed for the declining marital satisfaction after the birth.

“What we’re finding is that it is not who is doing what with respect to child care, but how couples communicate around child care,” said Volling, who directs the University of Michigan Center for Human Growth and Development.

Couples having a difficult transition were more likely to use destructive marital communication (yelling, blaming, threatening their spouse) during child care disagreements about who was doing what. Meanwhile, couples using more constructive communication and problem-solving strategies fared better after the birth of their second child.

Thirty-five percent of couples reported more stress and disruption immediately following the birth. Wives noted more conflict. Husbands said they experienced a drop in their positive feelings about the marriage.

Dr. Richard Gonzalez, the study’s co-author and professor of psychology, statistics, and marketing, said this group had a more difficult time but this disruptive period was short-lived. Couples engaged in positive marital relations again by four months, he said.

Couples who communicated positively and received support from family and friends were able to cope with stress, which prevented marital decline, Volling said.

Source: University of Michigan
 
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Second Child Can Be Easier for Couples to Manage

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

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Nauert PhD, R. (2015). Second Child Can Be Easier for Couples to Manage. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 24, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/news/2015/08/31/second-child-can-be-easier-for-couples-to-manage/91621.html

 

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