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Unrealistic View of Self Can Harm Teen Relationships

New research finds that when adolescents believe they are better than their peers, the belief will probably cause relationship difficulties.

These unrealistic views, a new study of eighth-graders finds, damage the child’s relationship with others in the classroom: The more one student feels unrealistically superior to another, the less the two students like each other.

Katrin Rentzsch, Ph.D., an investigator from the University of Bamberg in Germany, first became interested in the effects of such self-perceptions when she was studying how people became labeled as nerds.

“There is more to being labeled a nerd than just academic achievement,” she said. “I really got interested in the question of whether it is OK to brag about achievements in class or if you should rather not display your achievements in the classroom.”

But that line of thinking led her in a different direction than bragging, toward something psychologists call “self-enhancement,” when a person feels unrealistically superior to someone else.

The poster child for self-enhancement is the character Sheldon on the TV comedy “The Big Bang Theory,” Rentzsch said.

“Although Sheldon is a smart person and receives respect for his scientific work, he still thinks that he is even smarter, brighter, or much better as compared to how he is perceived by others,” said Rentzsch, a visiting scholar at Stanford University.

Rentzsch and her colleague Michela Schröder-Abé, Ph.D., decided to take a closer look at how such self-enhancement affects relationships, so they turned to the eighth-grade classroom.

In this setting, they measured the differences between actual academic performance, students’ perceptions of their performance, and social popularity. The 358 students came from 20 eighth-grade classes in schools in southeast Germany.

Using a round-robin design, the researchers asked each student to rate their classmates, in terms of their likability and of their feelings of academic superiority (i.e. rating on a scale “‘I feel academically superior to him/her”).

They then contrasted those ratings with the students’ grades in math, physics, German, and English.

Importantly, they conducted the analysis at two different social levels: “habitual,” the way people act in general; and “relationship,” the way someone acts around a specific individual.

Researchers found the two perspectives were associated with significant differences in perceptions. Students who tended to have an inflated view of themselves at the habitual level were neither more or less liked by their classmates. However, self-inflation toward specific individuals changed how the students felt about each other.

“The more a student felt unrealistically superior to a specific other student, the less he or she was liked by the other student in return,” wrote the researchers in a new online study in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science.

Interestingly, at both the habitual and relationship levels, students who self-enhanced disliked their classmates more than those with more realistic views of themselves.

The results show that “the specific relationship between individual’s matters when it comes to the social consequences of self-enhancement,” said Rentzsch.

When a person acts superior to someone else specifically, it can be offensive, whereas if someone has an inflated sense of themselves all the time toward everyone, it feels less personal. Just think of that guy, like Sheldon, you might meet at a party who acts like he’s smarter than everyone else — you may feel uncomfortable but not personally offended, said the researchers.

The new study helps to bridge past inconsistent findings on the topics of self-enhancement.

Historically, psychology studies found self-enhancement had both positive and negative effects on relationships. “Our findings may help to explain previous controversial findings on the interpersonal consequences of self-enhancement in that they reveal different effects at two different levels of analysis,” the authors wrote.

In future work, Rentzsch would like to look at these effects in adults, perhaps specifically in team work. She is also interested in self-enhancement beyond academic achievements, for example, physical attractiveness.

Source: SAGE Publications/EurekAlert

Unrealistic View of Self Can Harm Teen Relationships

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

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Nauert PhD, R. (2018). Unrealistic View of Self Can Harm Teen Relationships. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 28, 2020, from
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