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Forgiving a Wrong Makes It Easier to Forget Its Details

Forgiving a Wrong Makes It Easier to Forget Its DetailsA new study suggests the old adage “forgive and forget” may actually reflect the best method for helping ourselves move on in life after an offense.

Specifically, researchers at the University of St. Andrews in Scotland determined the details of a transgression are more susceptible to forgetting when that transgression has been forgiven.

The findings are published in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science.

“It is well-established that learning to forgive others can have positive benefits for an individual’s physical and mental health,” said Saima Noreen, Ph.D., lead author of the study.

“The ability to forget upsetting memories may provide an effective coping strategy that enables people to move on with their lives.”

From the perspective of cognitive science, overcoming strong negative emotions toward the person who did us wrong and quashing impulses for retribution or vengeance — processes that are critical to forgiveness — may be seen as a function of executive control.

And research suggests that this executive control is also involved in our ability to forget something when we’re motivated to forget it.

In the study, Noreen decided to examine whether this same cognitive mechanism might form a link between forgiveness and forgetting.

The study involved participants reading 40 scenarios that contained hypothetical wrongdoings, including infidelity, slander and theft. They were asked to evaluate the transgression and say whether, as the victim, they would forgive the misdeed.

About one to two weeks later, they read a subset of the scenarios again, but this time each scenario was paired with a neutral cue word.

After learning the scenario-cue pairings, the participants were presented with some of the cue words, written in either red or green, and were instructed to recall the related scenario when the cue word was green, and to avoid thinking about the scenario when the cue word was red.

This procedure, often used in memory research, essentially trains people to forget specific information or details. The researchers wanted to see whether forgiveness might affect the forgetting process.

For transgressions they had forgiven in the first session, participants showed more forgetting when they had been instructed to forget the scenario in the second session, compared to when they had been given no specific instructions.

In contrast, participants showed no forgetting for scenarios they had not forgiven, even when they had been told to forget them.

Together, these findings suggest that forgiveness may facilitate intentional forgetting by helping individuals to suppress details about the transgressions perpetrated against them.

So, while true forgiveness may be difficult to accomplish, the findings suggest that once the transgression has been forgiven forgetting may become easier as a result.

“This research is only coming into fruition, and it’s likely that the relationship between forgiveness and forgetting is bi-directional and far more complex over longer periods of time,” Noreen says.

“We hope that, in time, new fields of inquiry may combine forgetting- and forgiveness-based interventions that might, in turn, give rise to powerful therapeutic tools that will enable people to ‘forgive and forget’ more effectively.”

Source: http://www.psychologicalscience.org

Forgiving a Wrong Makes It Easier to Forget Its Details

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

APA Reference
Nauert PhD, R. (2016). Forgiving a Wrong Makes It Easier to Forget Its Details. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 15, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/news/2014/05/14/forgiving-a-wrong-makes-it-easier-to-forget-its-details/69817.html

 

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