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Matchmaking Fulfills the Matchmaker Too

Matchmaking Fulfills the Matchmaker TooThis week is a perfect time to pair up friends for a date, as new research suggests the activity can reap rewards both for the new couple and for you.

A new study, found in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science, suggests matchmaking brings intrinsic happiness to the matchmaker — especially when introducing¬†two people who not only seem compatible but who would be unlikely to meet otherwise.

“At some point, most people have made matches between others — like grabbing two strangers by the arm at a party and introducing them to each other — or can think of a friend notorious for their efforts to make introductions,” said Lalin Anik, Ph.D., a postdoctoral fellow at Duke University.

She notes that the rising popularity of social networking websites such as Facebook and LinkedIn has made matchmaking effortless and central to social life.

Anik, with her colleague Michael Norton, Ph.D., of the Harvard Business School, conducted an in-depth investigation of modern-day matchmaking, examining what motivates us to match others.

They discovered that even when the new pairing does not work, the matchmaker still reaps the emotional benefits of socially linking others.

In four studies, to be presented this week at the Society for Personality and Social Psychology (SPSP) annual conference, they used surveys, computer games, and in-lab social interactions to show when and why making matches between others boosts happiness.

In one study, the researchers asked groups of participants to engage in a brief “get acquainted” task in the laboratory.

They then asked participants to pair others in the group: One group of participants had to match pairs that they thought would get along; another group tried to match pairs that they thought would not get along; and a third group matched people on the basis of a random characteristic — their social security numbers.

Participants who selected pairs of people who they thought would bond became happier as a result of their matchmaking. Those in the other two groups felt the same as they did before the task.

In another study, the researchers created a simple computer game in which participants saw a target face and selected one of three other faces with whom they thought the target would best or worst get along.

Once again, the matchmakers had the best experience and were willing to play the game much longer than participants asked to pair people on the basis of mutual dislike.

Some participants received monetary rewards for each match made, while others did not. Interestingly, the researchers found that paying people diminished their interest in the game.

“Participants who made matches between others for free persisted on the matchmaking task much longer than participants who were offered money,” Anik says.

These results challenge the rising trend of online social networks providing financial incentives for people to make introductions.

Another surprising finding was that matchmaking brings the most happiness to those who pair together two people who are less likely to meet.

“Making matches between people who are already likely to be members of the same social network, for example, two white women, is not as rewarding as making matches between people less likely to be in the same network, for example, a white woman and an Asian man,” Anik said.

“There are many reasons why people make matches,” Anik said. “Matchmakers may be proud that they have the social acumen to recognize a social link that others hadn’t.”

In addition, people may enjoy matchmaking because they view it as an act of kindness. And, of course, “people enjoy being the key person who made that critical match between newlyweds or between business partners who started a successful venture.”

Future work will further explore the costs to people’s emotions and reputations when matchmaking goes wrong: Think of setting up two acquaintances on the worst date of their lives.

“The study of matchmaking is especially timely now as social structures, as well as definitions of social ties and friendships, are changing,” Anik said. “Our exploration of matchmaking can help people to navigate their increasingly complex social webs.”

In the meantime, this Valentine’s Day, Anik and Norton encourage everyone to make matches — romantic and otherwise.

“Matches should be made with the goal of creating meaningful connections,” they said.

Source: Society for Personality and Social Psychology

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Matchmaking Fulfills the Matchmaker Too

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

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Nauert PhD, R. (2018). Matchmaking Fulfills the Matchmaker Too. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 29, 2020, from
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Last updated: 8 Aug 2018 (Originally: 11 Feb 2014)
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