Myth-Busting Love and Sex Among Gay and Bi Men
The study collected data from an Internet-based survey of almost 25,000 gay and bisexual men residing in the United States who were members of online websites facilitating social or sexual interactions with other men.
Researchers at George Mason University’s Department of Global and Community Health and Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion believe the study helps to answer question such as: What does love have to do with sex? And, in particular, among gay and bisexual men in the United States?
While most research about love has been conducted among heterosexual-identified individuals or opposite sex couples, the focus of this study on same sex couples suggests experiences of love are far more similar than different, regardless of sexual orientation.
The study is published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.
Researchers discovered nearly all (92.6 percent) men whose most recent sexual event occurred with a relationship partner, indicated being in love with the partner at the time they had sex.
This is the first time a study has described sexual behaviors engaged in by those men who report being in love, or not, during a given sexual event with a same-sex partner.
“Given the recent political shifts around the Defense of Marriage Act and same-sex marriage in the United States, these findings highlight the prevalence and value of loving feelings within same same-sex relationships,” said lead investigator Joshua G. Rosenberger, Ph.D.
Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., one of the study co-authors, added, “This study is important because of myths and misunderstandings that separate men from love, even though the capacity to love and to want to be loved in return is a human capacity and is not limited by gender or sexual orientation.”
“Given the extent to which so much research is focused on the negative aspects of sexual behavior among gay men, particularly as it relates to HIV infection, we were interested in exploring the role of positive affect — in this case, love — during a specific sexual event,” said Rosenberger.
Additional key findings include:
- Nearly all men in the study, 91.2 percent, were “matched” when it came to their feelings of love and their perceptions of their partner’s feelings of love;
- With regard to age, having been in love with their sexual partner during their sexual event was experienced most commonly by men age 30–39 years;
- Uncertainty of love for a sexual partner was less frequent in older cohorts, with a greater proportion of young men reporting they were unsure if they loved their sexual partner or if their sexual partner loved them;
- Men in love with their partners were significantly more likely to endorse the experience as being extremely or quite a bit pleasurable, compared to sexual events in which the participant was not in love.
“We found it particularly interesting that the vast majority of men reported sex with someone they felt ‘matched’ with in terms of love, meaning that most people who were in love had sex with the person they loved, but that there were also a number of men who had sex in the absence of love,” said Herbenick, of the IU School of Public Health in Bloomington.
“Very few people had sex with someone they loved if that person didn’t love them back. This ‘matching’ aspect of love has not been well explored in previous research, regardless of sexual orientation.”
Nauert PhD, R. (2018). Myth-Busting Love and Sex Among Gay and Bi Men. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 21, 2020, from https://psychcentral.com/news/2014/02/07/how-does-love-influence-sex/65553.html