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Societal Expectations Help Shape Grief

Societal Expectations Help Shape GriefNew research suggests the way society relates to people who have suffered a loss is important to the way the grieving process is managed.

University of Haifa scientists propose that people who have never suffered the loss of a loved one tend to believe that the bereavement process has a far more destructive and devastating effect on a person compared to those who have actually suffered such a loss in the past.

“Loss is a personal experience, but it’s also a social and cultural one,” said researcher Shimshon Rubin, Ph.D.

“The way society relates to people who have suffered a loss is critical to the way the grieving process is managed, because the social component is very important in coping with bereavement.”

The study questioned more than 200 men and women of different ages, a portion of whom had suffered loss or trauma in the past.

Participants filled out a variety of questionnaires that included stories of people who had suffered different types of trauma or loss. The participants were asked to rank the severity of that person’s situation based on the way he coped with the painful event he had experienced.

The study found that events that happen to a loved one are perceived by society as causing a greater and more negative change in one’s life than suffering a personal trauma.

For example, losing a loved one was ranked as a greater emotional difficulty that has a more negative impact on one’s life than suffering a personal trauma, such as a road accident in which the person himself was involved.

Participants also said that an interpersonal trauma — an accident in which a relative was involved and remained alive — was perceived as more difficult and having more impact than a personal trauma.

According to Rubin, what was surprising was that most of the study participants didn’t ascribe any importance to the length of time that had passed since the loss occurred; in other words, whether the loss had occurred 18 months earlier or five years earlier, participants said the emotional impact and the assistance the bereaved requires don’t change.

“From studies we’ve conducted on people that suffered personal losses, we found that the length of time it takes for them to return to a regular routine is about five years,” said Rubin. “Thus the fact that society doesn’t ascribe importance to the passage of time is very significant.”

Researchers believe society’s sympathy toward the bereaved can be improved with an understanding that coping with loss includes several dimensions.

“The bereaved are seeking meaning in the life of the deceased and in the personal relationship they had with him,” Rubin explained.

“Today the environment is very sensitive to the personal suffering and the concern with the meaning of life that the bereaved person himself feels after a loss. But we tend not to ascribe enough importance to the bereaved person’s need to find meaning in the life of the deceased.

“Finding meaning in the life of those who have died is a very important component in enabling the bereaved to better adjust to their loss.”

Source: University of Haifa

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Societal Expectations Help Shape Grief

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

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Nauert PhD, R. (2018). Societal Expectations Help Shape Grief. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 3, 2020, from
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Last updated: 8 Aug 2018 (Originally: 22 Apr 2013)
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