New research suggests a shared approach to household chores and parenting is a tonic for a successful marriage.
However, University of Missouri researchers discovered an equal distribution of responsibilities is not always necessary as each couple will determine expectations of each partner.
“Sharing can mean something different to every couple,” said Adam Galovan, lead researcher and doctoral student in human development and family studies.
“It could be taking turns changing diapers or one parent watching the children while the other prepares dinner. Doing things together and having mutual, agreed-upon divisions of labor benefitted both spouses.”
Galovan and his Brigham Young University and Utah State University colleagues surveyed 160 heterosexual couples to see how the parents divided household responsibilities and how those chores affected the husbands’ and wives’ relationships.
The couples were married for an average of five years and had at least one child age five or younger. Most of the parents were between 25 and 30 years old, and about 40 percent of the women had full- or part-time jobs.
“The more wives perceived that husbands were engaged in routine family work tasks, the better the relationships were for both partners,” Galovan said. “Wives in our study viewed father involvement and participation in household chores as related. Doing household chores and being engaged with the children seem to be important ways for husbands to connect with their wives, and that connection is related to better couple relationships.”
The bonds between fathers and their children also contributed to couples’ marital satisfaction, Galovan said.
“When wives felt their husbands were close to their children, both spouses reported better marriages,” said Galovan. “The father-child bond was particularly important for wives.”
Parenthood is not easy and caring for a child is a challenge. Couples should realize that transitioning into parenthood requires an adjustment period, and it is normal for husbands and wives to feel stressed, Galovan said.
To counteract the stress, he recommends that parents make each other a priority.
“Find ways to connect throughout the day, even if it’s just doing dishes together or watching a movie,” Galovan said. “These simple connections in daily life seem to enhance couples’ marital satisfaction and improve the quality of their relationships.”
The study is found in the Journal of Family Issues.
Source: University of Missouri