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Friendship 2.0: Technology May Help Teens Feel They Belong

Friendship 2.0: Technology May Help Teens Feel They BelongWorried that your teen is glued to her cell phone and constantly checking social networking sites? 

A new study suggests the use of digital media may actually help teens reach developmental milestones, such as fostering a sense of belonging and sharing problems.

“What they’re doing is different from generations of teenagers from before the digital era, but it comes from the same place of basic developmental needs. It’s just that they’re using different tools to satisfy these needs,” said Katie Davis, Ph.D., an assistant professor in the Information School at the University of Washington.

She calls this phenomenon “Friendship 2.0.”

For her study, Davis interviewed 32 adolescents, aged 13 to 18 and about an even mix of boys and girls, living on the island of Bermuda where teens have similar digital media habits as teenagers in the United States.

She asked them about how they use media to communicate with friends, and came up with an inventory of their media use:

  • 94 percent have cell phones;
  • 53 percent have Internet-enabled cell phones;
  • 91 percent have Facebook profiles;
  • 78 percent use online instant messaging, such as MSN, AOL or Skype;
  • 94 percent use YouTube;
  • 9 percent use Twitter.

Though more Bermudian teens use social networking sites and own cell phones than American teens, Davis says that her findings from the island where she grew up and worked as a teacher can provide insights on U.S. teens because the two countries share cultural ties and the role of digital media in teens’ lives is similar in both places.

Davis also analyzed 200 examples of the content of the teens’ digital conversations. Chatter about homework or what they did that day occurred three times more than intimate conversations about feelings or problems, she noted.

Looking at the casual exchanges, Davis found that friends stay connected through frequent check-ins, sharing something funny that happened or asking what they’re up to or how they’re doing. These off-the-cuff conversations can last throughout the day, with breaks for going to class or having dinner, she said.

About 68 percent of the check-ins occur on Facebook, and include groups of friends commenting on photos or YouTube videos. Nearly half of the participants talked about posting photos of themselves with their friends and then tagging their friends, allowing them to discuss a shared experience and promote a sense of belonging to a circle of friends, she said.

Intimate exchanges, discussed by 69 percent of the teens — usually girls — included how they were feeling, whether they were having a bad day or other problems that they hoped to get their friends’ help with.

Teens, especially those describing themselves as shy or quiet, said it was easier to share these personal thoughts digitally than in person. Some felt typing rather than speaking their feelings gave them more control, Davis said.

Some teens considered the ability to connect anytime and anywhere with their friends to be not just convenient, but necessary to stay up-to-date and to avoid feeling isolated or being left out of group activities.

“Adolescents are interacting with their peers constantly, and the question arises as to whether they can still develop an autonomous sense of self,” Davis said.

This isn’t known yet, but she said she suspects that this constant connectivity may support the development of an outward-looking self, one that looks to others for affirmation rather relying on an internal sense of worth and efficacy.

“Relying on others for self-affirmation suggests a relatively fragile sense of self, but our study doesn’t say for sure that that is what is going on,” Davis said. “What we can say is that adolescents are using digital media to promote their sense of belonging and self-disclosure of personal problems, two important peer processes that support identity development.”

Her study will be published in the Journal of Adolescence.

Source: University of Washington

Friendship 2.0: Technology May Help Teens Feel They Belong

Janice Wood

Janice Wood is a long-time writer and editor who began working at a daily newspaper before graduating from college. She has worked at a variety of newspapers, magazines and websites, covering everything from aviation to finance to healthcare.

APA Reference
Wood, J. (2018). Friendship 2.0: Technology May Help Teens Feel They Belong. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 30, 2020, from
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