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Coffee with Your Ex Less Threatening than Lunch, Jealous Partners Say

Coffee with Your Ex Less Threatening than Lunch, Jealous Partners Say What is wrong with having an innocuous lunch meeting with an old flame?

Apparently a lot, suggests a new research study that finds meeting with an ex-lover over coffee is a much better way to maintain harmony at home.

“Our research suggests that sharing lunch involves more than the physical consumption of calories,” conclude co-authors Kevin M. Kniffin and Brian Wansink of Cornell University.

Their new paper, “It’s Not Just Lunch: Extra-Pair Commensality Can Trigger Sexual Jealousy,” appears in the journal PLoS ONE.

In the study, the researchers measured the amount of jealousy reported by current romantic partners if one of them were contacted by an ex-lover and subsequently engaged in several food- and drink-based activities.

“We consistently found that meals elicit more jealousy than face-to-face interactions that do not involve eating – such as having coffee,” Kniffin said. “These results are consistent for both men and women.”

Experts say the study suggests that men and women who “do lunch” run the risk of a jealous spouse or partner at home.

“It’s key to remember that from your spouse’s perspective, it’s not ‘just lunch.’ While meals can strengthen social relationships, they can also destroy them,” Wansink said.

Source: Cornell University

Couple eating dinner photo by shutterstock.

Coffee with Your Ex Less Threatening than Lunch, Jealous Partners Say

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

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Nauert PhD, R. (2015). Coffee with Your Ex Less Threatening than Lunch, Jealous Partners Say. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 19, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/news/2012/07/13/coffee-with-your-ex-less-threatening-than-lunch-jealous-partners-say/41553.html

 

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