Online Role Playing Can Damage Marriage
Researchers studying online games believe they have found evidence that role playing games can affect real-life marital satisfaction.
Brigham Young University investigators discovered that 75 percent of spouses of sword-carrying, avatar-loving gamers wish they would put less effort into their guilds and more effort into their marriage.
The study is published in the Journal of Leisure Research.
Researchers studied 349 couples to learn how online role-playing games such as World of Warcraft, affect marital satisfaction for both gamers and their spouses. Although gaming reduced marriage satisfaction in most cases, the finding was not absolute as some couples reported an improved relationship.
“It’s common knowledge that many couples experience challenges around gaming,” said recreation management professor Neil Lundberg, Ph.D. “Particularly when husbands are heavy gamers, it clearly has a negative impact on their marriages.”
While the general findings of the researchers confirm most popular opinions, some surprise findings are insightful.
Most significantly, investigators learned that it is not the time spent playing games that caused marital dissatisfaction, but rather the resulting arguments or disrupted bedtime routines. These issues can cause problems such as poorer marital adjustment, less time spent together in shared activities and less serious conversation, the study reports.
“It’s not the hours that make a difference,” Lundberg said. “It’s really what it does to the relationship– whether or not it creates conflict and quarreling over the game.”
Researchers discovered that gaming is dominated by men, but there is a contingent of women gamers who play with their spouses.
“We didn’t realize that there was a whole group of couples who game together,” Lundberg said.
“In those gaming couples where the marital satisfaction was low, the same issues existed. For example, if they argued about gaming and bedtime rituals were interrupted, even though they gamed together, they still had lower marital satisfaction scores.”
However, the study found that for couples in which both spouses play, 76 percent said that gaming has a positive effect on their marital relationship.
Interestingly, for those who do game together, interacting with each other’s avatars–their online persona—leads to higher marital satisfaction. However, both must be satisfied with their mutual participation, especially the individual who plays less.
“Not all video games are bad,” the researchers concluded. “Some are fun leisure pursuits that when played together may strengthen your relationships with others. With any type of gaming, consider the content of the game. Consider what you are doing in the game, how much time it is taking, how it is affecting you, your schooling, work, sleep, body and especially how it is affecting your spouse and marital relationship.”
Although the research findings were meaningful, the investigators believe more significant problems may exist as they found many dedicated gamers were not willing to participate in the study.
The average age of the respondents to their nationwide survey was 33, and the average marriage length was 7 years. Of those couples in which only one spouse gamed, 84 percent of the players were the husbands. Of those couples where both gamed, 73 percent of those who gamed more were husbands.
“This study really does verify that gaming has an effect on marital satisfaction,” Lundberg said.
“It’s not just a random occurrence that a few couples are dealing with. Based on the large number of married gamers – 36 percent of multi-player online role-playing gamers report being married– we can assume this is a widespread issue.”
Source: Brigham Young University
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