Problems with Your Boss Can Strain Marriage
A new study suggests difficulty with your boss can lead to troubles at home.
Baylor University researchers discovered stress and tension caused by an abusive boss can impact an employee’s partner. This distress can affect the marital relationship and influence the employee’s entire family relationship.
Researchers did discover a minor caveat as the size of family and the length of time an individual has been in a relationship appear to buffer the impact of an abusive boss.
The study is found online in the journal Personnel Psychology.
“These findings have important implications for organizations and their managers. The evidence highlights the need for organizations to send an unequivocal message to those in supervisory positions that these hostile and harmful behaviors will not be tolerated,” said Dawn Carlson, Ph.D.
A supervisor’s abuse may include tantrums, rudeness, public criticism and inconsiderate action.
“It may be that as supervisor abuse heightens tension in the relationship, the employee is less motivated or able to engage in positive interactions with the partner and other family members,” said Merideth Ferguson, Ph.D., study co-author.
Experts call for organizations to encourage employees to seek support through their organization’s employee assistance program or other resources (e.g., counseling, stress management). Such programs can help an employee identify tactics or mechanisms for mitigating the effect of abuse on the family, according to the study.
In the study, 280 full-time employees and their partners were followed. Of the group of employees, 57 percent of the employees were male with an average of five years in their current job and 75 percent had children living with them.
The average age for the employee and the partner was 36 years. The average length of their relationship was 10 years.
Of the partner group, 43 percent were male with 78 percent of these individuals employed.
Workers filled out an online survey. When their portion of the survey was complete, their partner completed a separate survey that was linked back to the workers’.
Questions in the employee survey included; “How often does your supervisor use the following behaviors with you?” with example items being “Tells me my thoughts or feelings are stupid,” “Expresses anger at me when he/she is mad for another reason,” “Puts me down in front of others,” and “Tells me I’m incompetent.”
Questions in the partner survey included; “During the past month, how often did you . . .” feel irritated or resentful about things your (husband/wife/partner) did or didn’t do” and “feel tense from fighting, arguing or disagreeing with your (husband/wife/partner).”
“Abusive supervision is a workplace reality and this research expands our understanding of how this stressor plays out in the employee’s life beyond the workplace,” Carlson said.
Source: Baylor University
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