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Kids’ Friendships Reduce Stress of Rejections

Kids Friendships Reduce Stress of RejectionsChildhood is often a time of parties and fun, but as different personalities come into contact, kids can experience the pain of rejection. And a new study finds that peer rejection in middle childhood is best buffered by having friends.

The study, conducted by researchers at Radboud University Nijmegen in the Netherlands, appears in the journal Child Development.

Researchers looked at 100 fourth graders, a relatively unstudied yet important age. They sought to determine whether victimization and exclusion by peers were related to increases in the hormone cortisol — a physiological product of stress — and whether friendships lessened the chemical release.

The children were part of a longitudinal study on infant and child development that was carried out in the Netherlands and designed to be representative of the Dutch population.

Researchers asked children to nominate classroom peers who were often bullied, picked on, or excluded by other children.

They also asked children about the number of friends they had within the classroom, and the quality of their best friendships. In addition, they questioned the children’s parents about behavior problems, and they measured children’s cortisol levels through saliva collections five times on each of two consecutive school days.

Researchers discovered children who were excluded by their classmates had elevated levels of cortisol at school. And they had a smaller decline in cortisol over the course of the day.

Both of these findings may indicate that exclusion is stressful. This was even more pronounced for excluded kids who had few friends or had friendships that were characterized as low in quality.

Surprisingly, victimization by classmates wasn’t associated with increased cortisol levels, suggesting that victimization is not as stressful as exclusion.

“Together, the results demonstrate that although friends cannot completely eliminate the stress of exclusion at school, they do reduce it,” according to Dr. Marianne Riksen-Walraven, professor of developmental psychology at Radboud University Nijmegen.

“And the number and quality of children’s friendships can serve as a buffer against being rejected.”

Source: Society for Research in Child Development

Kids’ Friendships Reduce Stress of Rejections

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

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Nauert PhD, R. (2018). Kids’ Friendships Reduce Stress of Rejections. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 23, 2019, from
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