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Anxiety Can Hinder Friendship Development

Anxiety Can Hinder Friendship Development A new study looks at children who are socially withdrawn — kids who want to interact with their peers but are afraid to do so — and how the shyness affects their emotional stability.

Experts know that as children move toward adolescence, they rely increasingly on close relationships with peers. However, socially withdrawn children, who have less contact with peers, may miss out on the support that friendships provide.

In a new study about the peer relationships of almost 2,500 fifth graders who are socially withdrawn in different ways and those who aren’t withdrawn, researchers conceptualized different groupings of children.

They found that withdrawn children who can be described as “anxious-solitary” differ considerably in their relationships with peers, compared to other withdrawn children and children who aren’t withdrawn.

The study was conducted by researchers at Arizona State University as part of the Pathways Project, a larger longitudinal investigation of children’s social, psychological, and scholastic adjustment in school. It appears in the journal Child Development.

Socially withdrawn children who are classified as anxious-solitary are believed to experience competing motivations—they want to interact with peers, but the prospect of doing so causes anxiety that interferes with such interactions.

In contrast, unsociable children are seen as having what’s called low approach and low avoidance motives—that is, they have little desire to interact with peers but aren’t repelled by the prospect of doing so; for these children, the overtures of peers don’t make them feel anxious.

In the study, researchers classified students as anxious-solitary withdrawn, unsociable withdrawn, or non-withdrawn on the basis of students’ reports in which they nominated or rated their peers on a number of criteria (such as withdrawn behavior, aggressive behavior, prosocial behavior, and emotional sensitivity). Teachers also reported on the same criteria.

Compared with unsociable withdrawn youths and those who aren’t withdrawn, anxious-solitary children were found to be more emotionally sensitive and more likely to be excluded and victimized by their peers. They’re also less likely to have friends, and when they do have friends, to have fewer than their peers and to lose friendships over time.

Researchers believe anxious-solitary children have a difficult time in forming and maintaining friendships – primarily because of their anxiety.

In contrast, unsociable youths tend to have more friends and to maintain those ties over time.

The study also found that having stable friendships protects children from being victimized by peers—and that both withdrawn and non-withdrawn children benefit from friendships in this way.

“Understanding withdrawn children’s friendships is important because they have fewer contacts with children their own age,” said psychologist Dr. Gary Ladd, who led the study.

“Because the consequences of peer isolation can be severe, it may be particularly important for withdrawn youth to develop and participate in friendships through organized sports, play dates, and other such activities.”

Source: Society for Research in Child Development

Anxiety Can Hinder Friendship Development

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

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Nauert PhD, R. (2018). Anxiety Can Hinder Friendship Development. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 26, 2020, from
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