Sexual Dysfunction When Men’s Friends Are Too Close to Partner
A new study suggests sexual problems can occur among middle to older age men when their female partner is too close to their closest friends.
The connection between erectile dysfunction and friends shared by heterosexual men and their partners was announced by researchers at the University of Chicago and Cornell University.
The finding underscores the impact of social relationships on physical health.
The investigators describe the situation as “partner betweenness.” In this scenario, the close friendship between a man’s male friends and his female partner impacts the dynamics of the heterosexual relationship. In effect, the romantic partner comes between the man and his friends.
“Men who experience partner betweenness in their joint relationships are more likely to have trouble getting or maintaining an erection and are also more likely to experience difficulty achieving orgasm during sex,” write sociologists Drs. Benjamin Cornwell and Edward Laumann.
Cornwell and Laumann argue that partner betweenness undermines men’s feelings of autonomy and privacy, which are central to traditional concepts of masculinity. This can lead to overt conflict or problems with partner satisfaction and attraction.
The researchers analyzed data from 3,005 people aged 57 to 85. The information was pulled from the National Social Life, Health, and Aging Project, a comprehensive 2005 survey by the University of Chicago.
The results are published in the current issue of the American Journal of Sociology.
Experts say that erectile dysfunction, or ED, is common among men in the age group studied. About one-third of the men in the survey experience ED, which increases as men age.
Health conditions such as diabetes, heart problems and obesity can contribute to the condition, along with psychological and other factors.
The researchers took these sources of ED into account and found that even among men who were healthy and capable of having satisfying sexual relationships, there is increased risk for sexual problems when their partners have greater contact with the couple’s shared friends.
“In general, while the majority of men have more contact with all of their confidants than their partners do, about 25 percent of men experience partner betweenness in at least one of their confidant relationships,” said Laumann.
Cornwell said the data reveals a strong association.
“Partner betweenness is a significant predictor of ED: A man whose female partner has greater contact with some of his confidants than he does is about 92 percent more likely to have trouble getting or maintaining an erection than a man who has greater access than his partner does to all of his confidants.”
The researchers discovered that age is an important variable for betweenness ED.
Among men in their late 50s and early 60s, the prevalence of ED more than doubles when the female partner is closer to a shared friend than the male partner is. The relationship all but disappears among men in their 70s and 80s.
Researchers suggest it is possible that older men have a different concept of masculinity than the younger men in the survey.
“Older men’s greater focus on close, kin-oriented relationships increases their likelihood of adopting new definitions of masculinity that emphasize conveying experience and mentoring rather than independence and autonomy, and under these circumstances partner betweenness is less likely to trigger erectile dysfunction,” Cornwell said.
Laumann said the study shows the value of understanding the connections between social relationships and health.
“The results point to the importance of social network factors that are rarely considered in medical research — network structure and the individual’s position within it.”
Cornwell and Laumann point out that it is generally beneficial for couples to have shared friends, who contribute to a sense of “couplehood” and provide a base of support for the relationship. Partner betweenness is an unusual situation, however.
Source: University of Chicago
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