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Partner’s Support May Subvert Goals

Partners Support May Subvert GoalsA supporting and loving partner can help someone achieve his or her goals, right? New research says, maybe not.

Researchers made that counterintuitive discovery in a new study in the journal Psychological Science. They found that thinking about the support a significant other offers in pursuing goals can undermine the motivation to work toward those goals — and can increase procrastination before getting down to work.

So in effect, our partner may help to inadvertently subvert our goals.

Psychologists and study authors Dr. Gráinne M. Fitzsimons of Duke University and Dr. Eli J. Finkel of Northwestern University call this phenomenon “self-regulatory outsourcing” — the unconscious reliance on someone else to move your goals forward, coupled by a relaxation of your own effort. It happens with friends and family, too.

Does this mean love doesn’t bring out the best in us? Yes and no, said Fitzsimons.

“If you look just at one goal [in isolation] there can be a negative effect. But relying on another person also lets you spread your energy across many goals, which can be effective if your partner is helpful.”

The authors conducted three online experiments with participants recruited from a data-collection service.

In the first, of 52 women, some were asked to focus on a way their partners helped them reach health and fitness goals; the control group instead entertained thoughts of their partners helping them with career goals.

When asked how diligently they intended to work toward getting fitter and healthier in the coming week, the first group planned to put in less effort than the second.

Facing an academic goal, people also unconsciously outsourced their exertion to helpful partners. In the second experiment, 74 male and female students were given a means of procrastination—an engaging puzzle—before completing an academic achievement task that would help them improve their performance at university.

Those who had mused about how their partner helps them with academic achievement procrastinated longer, leaving themselves less time to work productively on the academic task, than did control group participants.

“The first experiment was about intention. The second captures behavior,” said Fitzsimons.

But recognizing dependency also inspired devotion—and commitment.

“In our study, women reported that their partners were very useful for their ongoing goals, giving examples like ‘I’d never get to the gym if my husband didn’t watch the children,’ or ‘I couldn’t stick to my diet without his support,’” she said. 

Among 90 female participants, those who outsourced more to their significant other were also more likely to say they were committed to making sure their relationship would persist over time, suggesting that outsourcing can lead to positive relationship outcomes.

Source: Association for Psychological Science

Partner’s Support May Subvert Goals

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

APA Reference
Nauert PhD, R. (2015). Partner’s Support May Subvert Goals. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 21, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/news/2011/02/16/partners-support-may-subvert-goals/23565.html

 

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