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Are Women Attracted to Undecided Men?

We are all familiar with the term ‘playing hard to get.’ Now, a new study finds there may be some credence to the behavior.

“Playing hard to get” has a new gender twist, if the results of a new study turn out to be replicable. Researchers from Harvard and the University of Virginia found that a woman is more attracted to a man when she is uncertain about how much he likes her.

According to study authors Drs. Erin R. Whitchurch and Timothy D. Wilson of the University of Virginia and Daniel T. Gilbert of Harvard University, a lot of psychological research has found that person A usually likes person B about as much as they think person B likes them.

“If we want to know how much Sarah likes Bob, a good predictor is how much she thinks Bob likes her,” they wrote. “But what if Sarah is not sure how much Bob likes her?”

This might lead Sarah to spend a lot of time thinking about Bob, wondering how he feels, and she might find him more attractive the more she dwells on him.

In the study, forty-seven female undergraduates at the University of Virginia were told that the experiment was designed to study whether Facebook could work as an online dating site.

Each student was then told that male students from two other universities had viewed her profile and those of 15 to 20 other females.

Then the women were shown four men’s Facebook profiles that they thought were real, but were actually fictitious.

Some of the women were told they’d seen the four men who liked them the most; others were told these were four men who rated them about average.

A third group were told the men could be either the ones who liked them most or the ones who liked them about average — so those women didn’t know about the level of the men’s interest in them.

As other research has found, women who believed the men liked them a lot were more attracted to the men than women who thought the men liked them only an average amount.

However, the women who found the men most attractive were the ones who weren’t sure whether those men were into them or not.

“Numerous popular books advise people not to display their affections too openly to a potential romantic partner and to instead appear choosy and selective,” the authors write.

Women in this study made their decisions based on very little information on the men — but in a situation not unlike meeting someone on an internet dating site, which is common these days.

“When people first meet, it may be that popular dating advice is correct: Keeping people in the dark about how much we like them will increase how much they think about us and will pique their interest.”

The study is published in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science.

Source: Association for Psychological Science

Are Women Attracted to Undecided Men?

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

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Nauert PhD, R. (2015). Are Women Attracted to Undecided Men?. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 25, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/news/2011/02/08/are-women-attracted-to-undecided-men/23266.html

 

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