People May Think Apologies Are More Important Than They AreExperts say that giving an apology is the first, not the final step, in the reconciliation process.

However, a new study, published in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science, finds that people are not very good at predicting how much they will value an apology.

Apologies have been in the news a lot the last few years in the context of the financial crisis, said Dr. David De Cremer of Erasmus University in the Netherlands. He cowrote the study with Drs. Chris Reinders Folmer of Erasmus University and Madan M. Pillutla of London Business School.

Beginning with the Enron debacle, followed by the Bernie Madoff Ponzi scheme and the current financial meltdown, people who have been harmed want apologies.

“Banks didn’t want to apologize because they didn’t feel guilty but, in the public eye, banks were guilty,” De Cremer said. But even when some banks and CEOs did apologize, the public did not seem to feel any better.

“We wondered, what was the real value of an apology?”

De Cremer and his colleagues used an experiment to examine how people think about apologies.

Volunteers sat at a computer and were given 10 euros to either keep or give to a partner, with whom they communicated via computer.

The money was tripled so that the partner received 30 euros. Then the partner could choose how much to give back — but he or she only gave back five euros. Some of the volunteers were given an apology for this cheap offer, while others were told to simply imagine they had been given an apology.

The people who imagined an apology valued it more than people who actually received an apology. This suggests that people are pretty poor forecasters when it comes to what is needed to resolve conflicts.

Although they want an apology and thus rate it as highly valuable, the actual apology is less satisfying than predicted.

“I think an apology is a first step in the reconciliation process,” De Cremer said. But “you need to show that you will do something else.”

He and his authors speculate that, because people imagine that apologies will make them feel better than they do, an apology might actually be better at convincing outside observers that the wrongdoer feels bad than actually making the wronged party feel better.

Source: Association for Psychological Science