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Childhood Friendships Help Shy Kids Repel the Blues

For young children, social supports in the form of friendships help them as they enter into the teen years. And for most shy and withdrawn kids, friends can even be a form of protection against sadness.

That’s one of the conclusions of a new study in the journal Development and Psychopathology.

According to the researchers, friendless kids can become social outcasts who risk spiraling into depression by adolescence.

“The long-term effects of being a withdrawn child are enduringly negative,” said lead author William M. Bukowski, a psychology professor and director of the Concordia Centre for Research in Human Development.

“Over time, we found that withdrawn kids showed increasing levels of sadness and higher levels of depressive feelings.”

A total of 130 girls and 101 boys in the third through fifth school grades took part in the three-year study. Participants were asked to rate whether they felt shy or preferred solitude. The research team also found that peers typically excluded children with poor social skills, who were perceived as overly aggressive or immature.

Compared with friendless children, those who had friends were less likely to report depressed feelings.

“Friendship disrupts the negative and long-term effects of withdrawal,” said Bukowski.

“Friendship promotes resilience and protects at-risk kids from internalizing problems such as feeling depressed and anxious.”

Withdrawal can have consequences that extend beyond the near term. “In much the same way as a snowball rapidly grows as it rolls down a hill, an adjustment problem is thought to amplify as it worsens,”¬†said Bukowski.

“Being isolated and excluded from the peer group can increase levels of depressed feelings in children and those negative feelings can escalate throughout adolescence.”

The key to avoid peer rejection is to make at least one friend.

“Having one friend can be protective for withdrawn or shy kids,”¬†Bukowski said. “Our study confirms the value of having friends, which are like a shield against negative social experiences.”

Source: Concordia University

Childhood Friendships Help Shy Kids Repel the Blues

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

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Nauert PhD, R. (2018). Childhood Friendships Help Shy Kids Repel the Blues. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 22, 2019, from
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