Judging the First Impression You Make
It’s often said that others judge us by the first impression that we make. But how well are you at judging how good that first impression actually is?
That was the question that peaked the curiosity of researchers at Washington University in St. Louis and Wake Forest University, who set out to discover how accurate people were at judging the first impression they make.
They discovered that it’s self-confidence that makes all the difference in knowing whether you’ve hit a homerun or struck out with your first impression.
Erika N. Carlson, a doctoral candidate in the Department of Psychology in Arts & Sciences; her advisor Simine Vazire, Ph.D., assistant professor of psychology; and Wake Forest University’s R. Michael Furr, Ph.D., engaged some 280 students in opposite-sex pairings from both universities in five-minute conversation after which impressions (your rating of your partner’s personality traits) and metaperceptions (your rating of how you think your partner rated your personality traits) were recorded on 60 personality items (such as nice, funny, outgoing), which were rated on a scale from 1 to 7.
There was a twist to their study. The researchers asked a confidence question: How confident are you in your estimation of how your partner sees your personality?
“In the past, researchers hadn’t asked whether you know when you’re accurate in first impressions, nor your degree of confidence,” Carlson says.
“We found that people who were poor at making good meta-impressions were less confident than people who made accurate ones. So, after making a first impression, if you’re confident in your judgment, you’re likely to be right.”
At the crux of knowing you’ve made a good impression is something called calibration, or “being confident when you’re right and uncertain when you’re wrong,” says Vazire. “Not well-calibrated people are confident when they’re wrong and uncertain when they’re right.
The confidence and accuracy questions in our study shed light on participants’ calibration.”
She likens accurate calibration to a sort of internal gauge.
“You think, ‘This is the impression I think I made.’ And the internal gauge tells you to go ahead with that impression, you’re probably right,” she says. “Or, gather more information, you might be wrong. So, well-calibrated people have a good internal gauge.”
The goal of their research is to enable people to trust the confidence of their first impressions and pursue the next step, Carlson says.
When you have misjudged the way others see you, the result is often a bad decision, says Carlson. “You might have thought that the date you went on went well and she liked you, but it went wrong in the date’s eyes and she doesn’t like you. Your next move could be embarrassing and painful,” she says.
We’re sometimes wrong about the impressions we’ve made, Vazire says.
“We might think that obviously the other person could tell that I hated them, or that I obviously liked them, or obviously my brilliance came across, but we’ve all been wrong, so it’s important in any number of social settings when to actually doubt how you’ve come across,” she says.
Future metaperception research will explore videotaped first impression interactions from calibration studies to determine which factors affect calibration, like verbal or non-verbal clues, which might reveal who formed accurate metaperceptions and who didn’t, who was wellcalibrated and who wasn’t, and perhaps more importantly, why people understood the impressions they made. Such clues could be in overt behaviors like talking rates, smiles, how close the participants sat to each other, or more subjective things like the intimacy of the conversation.
Carlson says there is some preliminary evidence that when one person is more accurate in metaperceptions, their partner also is, suggesting that there might be something unique to relationships that influences whether we can pick up on the impression we’ve made.
With the exception of someone like Michael Scott (the totally clueless boss in the TV sitcom “The Office”), people have a surprising level of self-knowledge in judging their first impressions, says Carlson.
“For the most part, people understand when they’re right and when they’re wrong,” she says. “If you want to know if you’ve made the right impression, trust your gut.”
The research was recently published in Social Psychological and Personality Science.
Source: Washington University in St. Louis
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