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How Your Job Can Affect Your Relationship

In today’s high pressure world the influence of work on relationships has never been as pronounced. For individuals with less than high self-esteem, success or failure on the worksite can spill over to the home, often affecting relationships.

Accordingly, a recent study examined questions such as: Do we feel accepted by our partners no matter how good or bad our professional life is going? Do we see our spouses as loving us for better or worse? The study, published in the July issue of SAGE’s Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, used the daily journals of over 150 married couples for insight.

In the article, “For better or worse? Self-esteem and the contingencies of acceptance in marriage” researchers lead by Sandra Murray of the University at Buffalo, concluded that people with low self-esteem incorrectly perceived their partner’s acceptance and love to be contingent on their professional accomplishments.

To help to unravel the mysteries of relationships as they naturally occur in real life, husbands and wives reported on their professional successes and failures while also reporting on the degree to which they felt accepted and loved by their partner. Self-esteem was found to be a key indicator of how people perceived their partner’s approval and support.

Men and women with low self-esteem felt that their partner’s love was contingent on their daily professional successes–they felt more loved on days when they were more successful. Low self-esteem women also felt less accepted and loved by their partners on days when they failed at work or school. In contrast, men and women with high self-esteem perceived their partner’s love as unconditional. In fact, high self-esteem women even tended to feel more loved on days when they reported failing at work.

The findings also suggested the importance of teaching people with low self-esteem how events in their own lives may, unreasonably, spill over into their marriages, causing them to see their spouses more negatively than is justified.

The article is available for access at no charge for a limited time at http://psp.sagepub.com/cgi/reprint/32/7/866.

Source: SAGE Publications

How Your Job Can Affect Your Relationship

Rick Nauert PhD

Rick Nauert, PhDDr. Rick Nauert has over 25 years experience in clinical, administrative and academic healthcare. He is currently an associate professor for Rocky Mountain University of Health Professionals doctoral program in health promotion and wellness. Dr. Nauert began his career as a clinical physical therapist and served as a regional manager for a publicly traded multidisciplinary rehabilitation agency for 12 years. He has masters degrees in health-fitness management and healthcare administration and a doctoral degree from The University of Texas at Austin focused on health care informatics, health administration, health education and health policy. His research efforts included the area of telehealth with a specialty in disease management.

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Nauert PhD, R. (2015). How Your Job Can Affect Your Relationship. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 23, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/news/2006/07/14/how-your-job-can-affect-your-relationship/95.html

 

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