What is Suicide?
People talk about suicide like it’s a secret that you can’t share with anyone. Suicide is whispered amongst friends and family members, and when someone engages in a suicidal act, the only question on everyone’s lips is, “Why?”
The answer is well-understood by mental health professionals — the answer is depression.
Depression is a serious mood disorder that affects the way a person thinks, feels and acts. It is not just feeling “blue” for no reason for a day or two. It is a lengthy pit of despair where hope is just a memory and suicide appears to be a reasonable, real choice. Suicide will end a person’s emotional suffering instantly, and it makes the person feel like they are removing one of the causes of pain and suffering for others in their lives as well.
Suicide Appears Like an Answer
Even though we may rationally believe that suicide fixes nothing, to someone who is suicidal, it appears like a real answer to all or most of their problems. No money, no job? End my life and stop being a burden on society. The cause of pain to someone you love? End my life and stop being a source of pain to that person. Feelings of depression that seem not only to never end, but get worse with every passing day? End my life and stop feeling so much emotional pain.
What a lot of people who have never experienced a serious depression or suicidal thoughts don’t understand is how could someone feel so hopeless and depressed to consider ending their entire life? The answer is often rooted in how hopeless and endless the depression seems to be. People who are suicidal are usually in the grips of a serious and untreated (or undertreated) depressive episode. Many people can hide such emotional pain very well, and pretend to be okay. But underneath, they may be in extreme agony and in need of help.
A big part of depression is thinking irrationally. This means a person is putting together the pieces of their life in a way that wouldn’t make sense to most others. There is an overemphasis on some pieces or some feelings that others would think are being blown out of proportion. But someone who is depressed often can’t think any differently — the depression is causing them to emphasize or focus on things that only contribute to the depression. This creates a snowball effect that often lands someone who is seriously depressed at the door of considering suicide.
The key to stopping the snowball effect before it’s too late is to acknowledge the pain and agony, and get help.
Getting Help Before it’s Too Late
The challenge with getting help, though, is acknowledging the need for help not only to yourself, but to others in your life. People often feel ashamed or that there’s something wrong with them if they need to go see a therapist or psychiatrist. These are simply old stigmas that have hung around, even as our understanding of mental health issues and treatments has increased for the better in the past decades.