I had a hero when I was a young girl: Loretta Young. On her 1950s television series, she represented all that was stylish, glamorous, and graceful. Each week, when she glided down those stairs in those amazing gowns, she radiated charm, poise, and that something extra. I wanted to be just like her when I grew up. I wanted to handle my life with that style, that grace, and that glamour.
Obviously, there was a lot I didn’t know about life at the time.
Everyone has at least one childhood memory of public embarrassment. These events tend to occur early in life, at a time when you probably don’t understand all that is happening around you. Perhaps you offered your opinion and found it wasn’t wanted. Maybe you fell and everyone laughed. Or your young body made an unanticipated public noise.
That would never have happened to Loretta Young!
Most people can easily recall a burning feeling of shame from childhood. Since you were too young to understand the incident, chances are your little mind made the same mistake that most other children make. You decided that something was seriously wrong with YOU.
What makes this so significant and yet so sad is that people cannot learn, grow, and develop themselves without mistakes. Growth is messy. You make mistakes, have painful feelings, and don’t have a clear mental picture of what to do next.
These are “oops” events. “Oops” events are normal and healthy. They are an indication that you are courageous, taking risks, and trying to grow.