Parent Abuse by Teen
Parents — just like anyone else — can be abused by a child or teenager. A young adult is just as capable as inflicting emotional, verbal and physical abuse, but it is often misunderstood or minimized because of the teen’s age. Age can be deceiving and is no indication of a person’s ability to inflict harm or damage another person’s life — even their parent’s. Teens can abuse and be abusing parents at any time, and no one may know unless the parent speaks up.
A parent who is being abused by their own child, whether it be a teen or even a younger child, may feel a sense of shame. As a mom or dad, you may think, “I should be able to handle this. Just because my child hits me or yells at me, I shouldn’t feel ashamed.”
But teenagers who are being abusive — hitting, threatening, intimidating, name-calling, shoving or more — need to understand the ramifications of their abusive behavior toward an adult. Just because that adult happens to be their parent doesn’t forgive or excuse the criminal behavior.
If you are suffering abuse at the hands of your son or daughter, it may be helpful to understand these tips:
Your safety is important
It is easy to believe that sacrificing yourself to protect your child is the “right thing” for a parent to do. But your safety is just as important and cannot be sacrificed to protect your child. If you’re seriously injured or, as the result of an accident, become hospitalized or worse, you will not be available to raise your child.
Make a safety plan and yes, call the police if necessary. It does not mean you don’t love your child. We all want to protect our children but that protection can not be traded against personal safety. Everyone has a right to feel both physically and emotionally safe.
You are not alone with this