When emotions tie you in knots, there are bound to be negative effects. It can be tough to know how to overcome these powerful emotions and get balance back.
Here are some tips for managing difficult emotions and regaining equilibrium.
Anger is one of the most powerful emotions and potentially the most self-destructive one. Whether you have mismanaged your feelings of anger or simply don’t recognize the signs that anger is taking over, you can learn how to be more proactive in dealing with anger and its aftermath.
It’s important to learn how to recognize when you are angry. For example, when you feel like throwing something against the wall or you blurt out angry words to others, you’re angry. Another sign of anger is when you feel choked and something is about to erupt inside.
You might have dealt with anger in the past by denying it, rationalizing that what’s going on is something other than anger. The problem with denying and rationalizing this powerful emotion is that it tends to drive those angry feelings deeper. There’s a strong likelihood they’ll resurface later, probably at the most inopportune moment or when least expected.
What do you do when you find yourself getting angry or suddenly realize that you are filled with anger? Are you able to own that anger? Do you have successful coping methods to deal with it? Or do you just try to ride it out until the anger subsides?
Common signs that you are becoming angry or are, in fact, already angry include:
Rattling off words rapid-fire
Making sarcastic or biting comments
Experiencing a growing list of various pains: stomach, back, neck and head
Thinking violent thoughts
Feeling the need to physically leave a room or get away from others so that anger doesn’t erupt in a physical altercation
Ask yourself how you currently deal with angry feelings. Do you isolate yourself so that anger doesn’t jeopardize relationships, your job, or other situations? Do you engage in other types of compulsive behavior to help mitigate anger, such as drinking too much or using drugs?