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Frequently Asked Questions about Serious Illness

Q. There are many options available as to what treatment patients should have. How can talking with a psychologist best prepare them for making that choice?

A. Overall, talking to a psychologist is an empowering process. Sometimes patients have to fight for what they want. Sometimes they need to push a bit. Most patients are uncomfortable pushing and asking questions because they’re not the expert and it feels disrespectful.

Also, psychology is helpful for coping with the side effects of treatment. Some people give up chemotherapy, even though it may threaten their life, because they can’t deal with the side effects.

Too often, a patient’s psychological needs throughout the treatment regime are not taken into account. Making an educated choice with the patient means weighing both their psychological needs and their medical needs.

Q. How can psychology help people to manage their pain?

A. Psychologists can help people manage their pain by giving them language to describe the pain both to themselves and to physicians (is it shooting or numbing pain, for example) and can suggest helpful medications or use hypnosis as a pain management intervention.

Q. How are friends, family and loved ones affected by a person’s serious illness?

A. Serious illness can affect the whole family, not just the patient. Psychology deals not only with the patient, but also with his or her aging parents, children, spouse, or friends who are involved with that patient’s treatments. The stress on a partner is enormous — they’re taking over the other person’s role, the financial burden, the burden of children, while simultaneously containing their own feelings. The stress on the caretaker cannot be understated. And children feel stress too. Parents mistakenly assume that theyíre hiding the illness from children in the family, but children often know when something is wrong.

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The aging parents also are affected. Their child is dying. They may be in their 70s and their child may be 40, but it’s still their child. There are many, many people affected when someone is seriously ill.

Q. Some believe that after that last physical therapy treatment, the illness is gone. Isn’t it true that the battle is really just beginning?

A. The rest of the world may want the patient to go back to normal after the treatment is over, but the survivor of a serious illness will never return to who they were. They may still be upset, anxious and worried. They’ve lost the protective umbrella of being under physician care. They’re afraid they’ll have a recurrence or they are left with bodily disfigurement. They’re not back to themselves. They need to be reintegrated into the world. Psychology can help long after the physical therapy is over.

Q. Are there any positives that come out of dealing with a chronic illness?

A. One study shows that dealing with a serious illness such as cancer can make people reassess their lifeís priorities and get a better sense of who they are.

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Frequently Asked Questions about Serious Illness

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Association, A. (2020). Frequently Asked Questions about Serious Illness. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 25, 2020, from
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Last updated: 30 Jul 2020 (Originally: 17 May 2016)
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