Stress can be defined as our body’s response to any threat — real or imagined — and our belief that we don’t have the resources to cope with that threat.
When it comes to stress “management,” many of us are not too different from our ancestors who roamed the plains 60,000 years ago. Our distant relations handled stress by automatically switching into what we describe today as the “fight-or-flight response.”
We all know this fight-or-flight response quite well: your heart beats faster, your blood pressure shoots up, and your breathing quickens as adrenaline races through your system and you want to either attack or run for your life!
While the fight-or-flight response was extremely useful to our predecessors when they were stalked by saber-toothed tigers or challenged by enemy tribes —they didn’t really have options other than to fight or flee — it’s less effective when coping with 21st century stresses. And yet, our present-day minds and bodies still can’t distinguish a genuine threat from a perceived or imaginary threat.
Imaginary Threat, Routine Reaction
Stress — unless you live on a cloud, you deal with it every day. Can you count the number of times you’ve heard or said, “I’m completely stressed out!” in the past week? Unlikely. It’s probably become routine.
And routine, in fact, is what it is. Research has shown that over 70 percent of all doctors’ visits are stress-related, and in a city the size of Boston, an average citizen has 60 fight-or-flight responses to stress every day!
On her way to work, Jane wasn’t paying attention as she crossed a busy intersection. She stepped into the street and suddenly heard the screech of tires and several loud car horns. Her body tensed, her heart pumped and she jumped back just in time to miss being hit by a speeding car. Although she was upset and nervous, she was already late for an appointment. When the light changed, she ran across the street to her office.
Later that day, during a particularly unpleasant meeting, Jane had the impulse to leap across the conference table to hit an irresponsible co-worker. She knew this would be highly inappropriate, and after taking a deep breath, she realized that the physical response she had to her colleague (a perceived or imaginary threat) was identical to that of nearly being hit by the car (a genuine, physical threat).
Although, or perhaps because, our ancestors didn’t have many of the conveniences we live with today, their lives were far simpler. As a result, they were able to regroup, relax, and recover from the saber-toothed tiger attacks and other real dangers they experienced. The way we modern types address stress is to “just move on,” “get over it,” or “deal with it later.” We head to our next activity, our next responsibility, our next stress, without taking the time to let our bodies and minds recover. The more the stress accumulates, the more at-risk we are for illness and disease. You might know the feeling of having chronic stomachaches, back pain, headaches, or numerous other symptoms as a result of “just waiting to deal with it (the built-up stresses) when it’s more convenient.” Unfortunately, it’s rarely “more convenient,” and the symptoms and stresses continue to build.